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How can you tell what a man's intentions are?
Dating / 4:05 PM - Sunday April 18, 2010

How can you tell what a man's intentions are?

Is there a way of knowing if a guy is looking for a relationship versus just casual dating/sex?

- Asked by fergie, A Hippie Chick, Female, 26-28, Chicago, Science / Engineering

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Absolutely! Make him wait on the sex. If he sticks around, it's for you. If he splits, he just wanted the cootchie.

- Response by bookman, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Who Cares?

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Don't have sex with him until you are in a committed relationship.

Then you don't have to wonder what his intentions are.

- Response by myndseye711, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35

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How the heck are you going to tell, when even the guy doesn't know? Honest, not being a smart aleck, a lot of guys have no clue whatsoever as to what they're doing.

- Response by stoney07, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 66 or older, Who Cares?

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Men always understand direct communication. Just ask him what his intentions are. Plain and simple. Good luck!

- Response by timeforanoverhaul, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Managerial

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3 dates
If he hasn't done anything. Hes in it for the long haul.

- Response by guy506, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Houston, Other Profession

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Yeah, take the time to get to truly know the guy. If the guy is desiring to get to know how great sex would be with you, before how great a person you are, you can just about tell at that moment it's casual. If he seems to be interested in something more than sex, he might truly be looking for a relationship. But, you can ask. He might tell you the truth, or he might lie. But, one way you'll truly be able to tell is not having sex with him until you feel comfortable doing so. Someone who's interested in you, will understand this and wait. Someone who doesn't will move on.

If you don't mind quickly having sex when you meet someone, the way you tell is when you go out a few times, and you don't have sex, how he reacts to that. If every initiation of dates or calls results in a night where there is sex, and when he's not interested in sex, you don't hear from him, that's pretty much a sign. The key to not being disappointed is being honest with yourself and not doing anything you don't feel comfortable doing. If the relationship isn't what you know you're truly desiring, move on. Don't compromise and hope that it will become so. Most of the time, it doesn't. Those interested in a real relationship with you and not just sex, behave towards you in this manner, period. Unless a person is getting paid for speaking engagements, talk has never cost one dime, it's always been cheap!

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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