My newlywed husband of 4 months just admitted to me that he has cheated several times...
We were married on December 19th. Today he comes home from work all upset wanting to tell me something. He says he has met a girl named Becca at a local restaurant and has been hanging out with her and smoking weed and texting. He said he feels bad and guilty and wanted to tell me so we can put it behind us.
His admission of this "attempting to cheat" made me start questioning whether he has ever actually cheated on me. After probing, he finally admitted to three counts. Once a few months after we started dating, another time about a month or so before we got married, and then in February.
These were three different girls, and what he actually admitted. I have a feeling there are more.
We have been together since last July. I found out in December that I was pregnant, and despite my own thoughts (I wanted to abort the pregnancy since it was not planned and an unexpected side effect of antibiotics I took after having the swine flu counteracted my birth control), I let him talk me into keeping the baby and that everything would be ok.
I feel disgusted, betrayed, and tremendously disappointed. I think I am going to have the marriage annuled (it obviously never meant anything to him anyways) but now I am 24 weeks pregnant with his child.
I don't know what to do. I love him, I don't want him to leave, but I know I would be an idiot to let him stay. I know in my mind and my heart that he will do this again. He has a problem, but I can't help him with it. I knew he had cheated on girlfriends in the past, which was a red flag, but he swore he wasn't that person any more and told me the kind of man he wanted to be. I gave him the chance and fresh start to be that man, but he took the opportunity, my trust, and my love and shoved it in my face.
What would you do in this situation? Been married for 4 months, together for 9, and now this. I am just so upset right now. I found this out around 6:30pm, have tried to sleep some because I have to work tomorrow, but it's 5am and I'm up and can't sleep thinking about all this.
- Asked by hollaback63
, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Administrative