How many months? You're being pretty intelligent by meeting in a public place. But, still be safe and aware of your surroundings and this guy's personality and the vibe he gives off. If something doesn't seem quite right, don't ignore that sense. There are great people you meet online that truly are the person they've communicated to you that they are. And, then you have many that are creeps that are lying and intend to meet what they believe are desperate, easy prey, to toy with their mind, and develop a sexual relationship with. Then, when you return home, you notice the calls, emails, texts, and facebook communication has decreased. What concerns me is how fast these online get to know you meetings always quickly move to sex talk. Are the majority of your conversations about other interesting things about you two that you share, or do the conversations mostly refer to sex? If you've met someone online, why not try to get to know something else to be interested in. Anyone can have sex, that's not something it takes time to get to know. But, most of the time, when someone talks about meeting someone online, they've already invested emotions in them based upon a profile, pictures, and talk. While I'm not against trusting that a person could be telling the truth. I do think you should always reserve developing emotional attachments or stimulating sexual desires with someone you haven't met yet.
Because, it's almost like the first meeting is anxiety about sex, not truly meeting the person you've supposedly been learning about or are truly interested in. The excitement should be in meeting each other and experiencing the great people you both are interested in. Not, in hey, we've been talking about sex and getting hot and horny, I can't wait to get to see you; we can have a great time and then have some great sex. Then, you leave "hoping" that he'll continue being interested in you. Or, get on here a week later asking, if you had sex too soon? I just don't understand why is there never any really great things expressed about the person, other than we've talked about sex, and the insinuation that sex is going to be expected? I know, you're an adult. If you want to have sex on the first date or meeting, fine. But, those situations where the relationship turns out the way you want after doing so, are the exceptions, not the rule. He could be a great guy. But, the interest has turned into discussions and anticipation relating to sex? Don't get me wrong. You do want to be sexually compatible. But, I just think upon meeting someone, there is so much more to be interested in being compatible on. But, this is always the top priority. And, I think that's a mistake. IMO
- Response by thelovedovefor1
, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?