OMG, I love this Question and it is so so important. I have learned this lesson myself and not too long ago. I knew it, because I had heard it, but now I realy know its true.
I heard years ago that 'If a man asks you to sleep with him right away, then he is not interested in getting to know who you are'. It so made sense at the time.
Then a few months back, I found myself in just that kind of situation and put up with the passes (hey, it felt great to have a man makeing me feel that good with just a touch), but it only took a month before he was stepping back and was already hot on the heals of another female.
I could not blame him totally. He and I both knew that the feelings were just not there. I was not responding to him sexually. He said he was a 'red blooded man'...I thought that meant that he liked sex...I now think he just meant that the wanted to be able to run around like a dog after a bone...or in this case a 'squirrel after nut'.
However I have to admit that it just wasn't happening.
So this just goes to proove what I have always known...that if you are not friends with the person first...feeling that closeness or comfort with that person, then no, sex is not going to be as good as it should be.
The best relationships/sexual relationships I have ever had all were with men that I was realy close to in the first place. Then the touch is so much better.
And yes, I thinkthat it does jeopardize the possiblity of a good relationship.
Because then the relationship is based more on the sexual aspect than on the friendship.
I have been confused by a relationship with a man that I dated only once (but knew for months before), the sex was awesome though, but it just didn't work out. He was so self absorbed. I was confused at first because it was good, but the more I thought it out, the more I realzied that it was never going to go any where...this was as good as it was going to get.
So wait until you really feel that there is some serious chemistry. That he isn't going to dump you after the first roll. Several months is good, if you can wait that long.
He'll either stick around because he is interested or he'll move on. If he moves on, he wasn't worth it anyway.
- Response by sisterme
, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Norfolk, Other Profession