And here we have every girl's fear realized.
Men are attracted to two big things: a chase, and a challenge. So, first scenario: you are confident. When you're with friends, when the guy meets you, you are in control, smooth, witty, all those great things. The guy sees you as a challenge and a worthy catch. But if your independence crumbles once they ask you out, that could make them lose interest. This may be the case if you really worry after the first or second date-it could be a self fulfilling prophecy.
Of course, there's always the scenario where you're a bit too easy, giving a guy everything he wants on the first date. Take comfort if this is true-it means the guy was a sleazeball anyway!
Either way, the solution is confidence. Don't lose sight of yourself just because some new guy is interested. If he likes you initially, make sure you're still you come date three. Don't get caught up in worrying about him! Remember, in the dating world, guys worry too! It's normal. The guy will want a great relationship too, so don't fret that you're not meeting his standards. A relationship involves two people-so make sure you're holding true to your half of that! If you melt away after a few dates, there will be no one left to have a relationship with! So stay strong and independent babe!
- Response by femmefatale89
, A Player, Female, 26-28, Student
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