My Adult Kid's Just do Not get It! They Treat me So Bad & I Myself am No getting it either
I will deal with My daughter First She is 23 married 3 years they have a perfect little girl 8 months old, They live with us trying to save for a home,However we do ask them to help around the house which they rarely do and pay $100. month for rent and $100. month for child care to me . If they had to place my grand daughter in Day care it would cost $120.00 a wk. We only ask for we Do need the money and we also want them to learn Life is not free.
Well They feel we are wrong! Also when i told my Daughter she has to stop waking me every morning to hold the baby while she makes a bottle or to take care of the baby so she can go back to bed for she is to tired .I told her this is the real world and I will not be here forever. My daughter said she should not have to pay me anything for she takes her daughter with her when she goes to the store or to a friends or doctor's appointment I said I am the sitter for work only! A Mom takes her child with her every place as I had to.
I was at first getting up with the baby every night, I was putting the baby to bed every night, I pretty much had the baby 24-7. When I realized My Grand daughter Only stops crying when i held her I knew I had to stop and make My Daughter take over before My Grand daughter started to think I was Mom. My Daughter and Son in-law feel her dad & I are so wrong for charging them money and for no longer tending to the baby when they are not at work. They never clean up, never, do a dish not even take out the trash, I tend to their dog, wash the baby clothes & bedding ,bottle's . The only thing they do is wash their own clothes. They do not even clean their own privet bathroom. I do for they leave it in such a mess I have to . I have begged asked pleaded for their help around the house yet they do not ! We feed them, Cook for them . I watch the baby 4-5 days a wk for 5-9 hours a day. What I am asking is $200. wrong of us to ask ? Our Income is only $2,100.00 a month..
I am 47yr old my husband 50 he has a sever heart condition I have a spinal condition that leaves me in pain 24 -7 . Them making feel guilty makes me feel sad and confused. Are we wrong?
- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Retired