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Why does a man touch himself or rub himself (his penis on the outside of his pants)why is this?
Sex & Intimacy / 8:35 PM - Thursday March 25, 2010

why does a man touch himself or rub himself (his penis on the outside of his pants)why is this?

my husband does this alot, we are lying in bed just watching t.v. i even start to fall asleep and i notice him doing this. i never say anything to him but it is like all the time. what makes a man pull at himself alot?

- Asked by Female, 56-65

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Usually it's a comfort thing. All too often when one has external plumbing in a tight area it's difficult to get or stay comfortable. I call it the "crush factor".

- Response by canajun, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Vancouver, Self-Employed

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maybe it itches??? Maybe a form of self-heavy-petting??? You should offer to help and see what he says.

- Response by cosmicdog0, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Denver, Science / Engineering

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why does a guy touch himself all the time???I would guess because he

- Response by eagerbeaver, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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mmmm.....i've noticed i do that a lot too......don't know why...

- Response by themamu, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?

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Touching not scratching? I see this a lot in men but its more of scratching. Or maybe he just feel comfortable doing it without any initiation of sex? Try to ask him why and offer if you like to do it for him? :)

- Response by asianlovely13, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, London, Managerial

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he's probably just adjusting

- Response by boxer1, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Self-Employed

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Maybe he needs more comfortable underwear?

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 56-65, Phoenix

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Because it feels good. Really haven't you ever seen babies do this? Your spouse just seems to feel freer doing it than some other men might.

- Response by joybird, A Creative, Female, Who Cares?, Therapist

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My husband will sit watching Tv and will have a blanket on him and always touching himzelf. I just feel not pretty.

- Response by loveless58, A Married Girl, Female, 56-65, Administrative

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Mine does this too, we are actually in a fight over this now. It's a huge turn off for me as I say, I must not be needed cause he's always playing with himself and walking around naked. The more I get turned off, the more he plays, so no one wins and we are growing apart sexually. I think it's discusting... What if woman walked around fingering themselves all the time?!

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Tampa, Student

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