He doesn't want to invite me to his birthday party because his ex's friends will be there. Problem?
I have been seeing a guy for two months. We have not had sex, but have kissed. We are starting to discuss starting a relationship soon.
His birthday is Saturday. He told me his friends are throwing him a party. He did not invite me. When I asked why, he said the truth is it's because his ex-girlfriend's friends will be there, and he would feel uncomfortable and he also doesn't want me feeling uncomfortable.
I pretended I was okay with it, so he can enjoy his birthday in peace. But the truth is I am not. I am hurt. I am now considering whether to even bother. Should I walk away from this or understand and forgive him? The fact this makes him uncomfortable makes me think he's not over her yet.
Update: March 24, 2010.
Just a little update: So I called him back and told him exactly how this makes me feel. And we both came to the conclusion that, you got it! He's not over the ex-girlfriend. He changed his mind and invited me, but yeah. As if.
So there you have it folks, live and learn! A non-invite to such a function to a guy your dating/seeing is definitely a red flag.
I guess I will remain friends with him for now, but yeah, back to the dating scene I go! Actually, I think I need a break from it to figure out why I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.lol.
Thanks to all who answered and Happy Wednesday!
- Asked by perpetuity09
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