Time frames stop being as important as we get older because like you indicated, we know ourselves a lot better. I think as long as you find out CORE values and Commonalities, both are happy with their lives and themselves Before you met then do it whenever you feel like it.
If one or both of you were lonely and unhappy before meeting, take your time to know that you are not working from a base of 'need' but one of want.
To me, Marriage is about coming together as one and that involves more than just Feelings. The Engagement Period is to give you time to know those other important things--the "Business Side" of things.
If you know each others "Non-Romantic Selves" such as things about Finances, Argument Styles, How you plan to handle Elder Care/Grandkid Care later, How you will combine families if you have kids, etc then again, go for it.
- Response by thottienc
, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?