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Are people really taking the time to truly get to know the people they choose for a relationship?
Dating / 5:58 PM - Saturday March 20, 2010

Are people really taking the time to truly get to know the people they choose for a relationship?

I've read some of the posts today, and it appears there are a lot of questions about relationships, where there's horrific behavior, abuses of all kinds, distrust, and unhappiness. And, the age ranges don't seem to matter. Why do you believe this is the case? How long does it take you, before you believe a person is worthy of being pursued for a relationship or to marry? What types of things are you looking out for? Maybe, your shared experiences will help others out.

- Asked by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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I know that I cannot be with a man I do not trust. I have been lied to one too many times. I would never allow a man to ever put his hands on me. I want a man who can make me happy and of course cheating is out of the question. Honestly, I treat my man like a prince, so I expect to be treated like a princess. I think a relationship should be 50/50!!! Maybe I am being too picky, but I have settled for less one too many times!!

- Response by christinfusion22, A Hippie Chick, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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most people i talk to say they are sleeping with their partner within the first 3 dates. about 25% say the first night. and when i ask about their fidelity, MOST feel they don't have to give that until the other person talks about exclusivity.

no wonder we are having so many problems.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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The reason is because most people get into relationships based on sex primarily, if not solely. They don't say that, of course, and I'm sure many people would be offended if I said that of them, but it's demonstrably true.

Men certainly do it, which is why they expect sex pretty quickly. And women, even if they don't mean to, facilitate that by feeling the need to have sex pretty quickly "to keep the man" (who ends up dumping her anyway afterwards often). Nobody is going to dispute the man part of things, so let's examine the woman part. Women, how often has that happened to you? You have sex with the guy, he doesn't call again or he loses interest after a short period of time? Or people get married and quickly realize that they "don't know the other person." Guess what? If you don't "know" them after dating for years or living with each other before marriage, that means all you did was shack up and have sex a lot. And that's most people.

Everyone makes fun of "no premarital sex." Guess what, if you didn't have premarital sex, you'd be FORCED to get to know the other person and decide if you liked them or not. But that's considered "stupid."

- Response by istillhatescrennames, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 66 or older

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No, people are jumping from relationship to relationship with such ease.

I think it's because of the whole internet. With the internet, there's a lot more fish in the sea so to speak. Before the internet, how did you meet people? By going out, meeting people at work or school.. you met people by actually face-to-face meetings.

Now, you can meet people wearing nothing but a robe. Relationships aren't valued as much because if this one doesn't work out, you can meet more people on facebook or myspace.

- Response by donuthate, A Creative, Male, Who Cares?, Phoenix, Who Cares?

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