|Friendship / 7:49 AM - Wednesday March 10, 2010|
How do you not let other people affect your day?
I've been having some really good days lately, but I always seem to let how other people treat me affect my day and my moods. I really dislike this about myself that I am so sensitive. I shouldn't care what anyone thinks about me or let their demeanor affect me any way... How can I become immune to other people and just be myself no matter what?
- Asked by klynna82, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, New York
I too am sensitive and people get to me all the time. I was thinking of different ways to handle this so that I stop torturing myself when half the time it has nothing to do with me. I feel like sensitive people tend to make everything about them. Try in this situation to think logically and never, never assume that it has to do with you until you are told it has to do with you. In other words don't worry about it until you have to. In the grand sceme of things who cares if someone isn't happy with you, who are they. Sensitive people also tend to make everyone else more important then themselves. You have to remember that you are as valuable a person as the next guy.. No one deserves to be on a pedastal no one...
I ask myself to state only known facts. Simple example; I came in, got my coffee, wiped the counter down, threw away paper towel, went to office. They came in, muttered, slammed the cupboard, stormed to their office. Typically I would list 100 doubts about what I did...but now, I retrace, find no error, (or if there is one address it) and move to what is real, in front of me. My peace has moved up a few bars and I notice I am happier with the things I do because I don't feel guilty or angry every 15 mins. My new favorite question to ask someone coming at me, "What exactly are you mad AT?" Remember, The Problem is the problem, not the person.