What do older men mean when they say they want a break?
We've been going out for 3 months and half, get along well in and out of the bedroom and see each other often in the weekends and 1 or 2 days during the weeks. We had some talks today about his lacking of reply to my texts during the weeks which I was rarely texted, I said if we could call and say hello 1 or 2 minutes during the weeks that will be good since I need more mentally connected by talking to each other to share our days, then he started to say that that is how he is, too busy, maybe he is not ready ( divorced 4 years ago), he wants to make me happy but it seems he can't and we should take a BREAK..Instead of work thing out or at least tell me where he stand or he will try or anything he wanted a break. I said I do not want to take a break because it seems that we are broken up, he sent me email later and said 'I still think it is the right thing to do, for us to take a break'. I sent him my message said that I respect his decision and thank you for good times and I will always miss him and hope things will work out for him. I gave him his break and I will not contact him again
He is over 50 and generally a easy going person. He was really into me and we had a respectfully relationship where we both honest and had great times. I should tell him when I see him better than talk over the phone
Do you think I asked too much?, when a older man said he wants to take a break, what does it mean? does he wants to end our relationship? does he need time?, are we over?
Update: February 14, 2010.
I'm so graceful for your advices here
I forgot to add that he said he just feels pressured and sent me an email later said "I still think it's the right thing to do, for us to take a break" when I asked him to think about it because I do not want to take a break rather going steady, I also asked him if we could meet on Sunday instead of Sat night because it's Valentine's Day and he said he is busy with his kids etcc, just a lame excuse since we always left them home alone (they're old enough 17, 18 to be home alone), this added on to the 1 or 2 minutes connection pressured issue, he didn't want to take me out for VD day and maybe he wasn't ready for the L world which is fine because we just met and maybe he feels uncomfortable to see me since we started out and having a good relationship so far until he called it a break. Even things were going well as far as I saw it but he ended just over a conversation and he didn't give me any options. He maybe sees someone else, who knows, everything is possible!,
If we couldn't have that friendship then why would we want to be in a relationship for?. Maybe he is not that into me but his actions told me otherwise that he cared and he was a gentleman and no hidden agenda, I'm 52 year old and I can read people's actions, not well at words. But maybe I failed this time :-(
Anyway, I will give him want he wants and move on with my life and I still think what I asked for 1 or 2 minutes connection phone calls/texting during the weeks is not too much to ask to develop more mentally bonding. I have no regret when I walk away from this relationship, the one I thought it could be the great one for me because we both thoughts we fit in together like a puzzle:-(
- Asked by Female, 46-55