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Ok Ladies This One Is For You....
Dating / 11:17 AM - Tuesday February 09, 2010

Ok Ladies This One Is For You....

.....could you be friends with your ex boyfriend or ex husbands new Wife/Girlfriend?

Guys you can weight in also...if this situation is/could be relevant to you.

- Asked by phenomenal1woman, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Chicago

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Have been and am currently.
If my relationship ended amicably and we manage to remain friends, then I want the best for him.

- Response by lee37, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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Most definately. I like my ex husbands new wife. She didnt have anything to do with our breakup we did that all by ourselves. No reason not to like her.

- Response by youngfuddyduddy, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Friends? Hmmm. Not necessarily. Cordial and friendly, yes. My Ex and I have a Daughter. He eventually married after we split. We've always got along fine. Outside of things related to my daughter (including fun activities) I don't communicate with her so it's not like we go hang out and shop or lunch one on one like I would with other friends.

My fiance's Ex wife is cordial as well. She knows we are getting married and she's fine with it I think. I sense she has just a bit of ire that he's remarrying before her and that I will have his last name. But eh, that's nothing much concern. It's not a forced cordiality either--genuinely likable person, but I don't see that we'll ever be 'friends' in the context of sharing secrets, laughing together one on one. Her and my fiance gets along but I wouldn't be more of her friend than he is...that's weird.

- Response by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Who Cares?

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I would certainly try my best. I think it's "classy" and mature to try to get along in this case. That's especially important if there are children involved.

One of my ex-boyfriends was my maid of honor's date at my wedding and that was just fine. If it's over ... it's over. No hard feelings.

- Response by mrscleaver16, A Cool Mom, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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If he can make her happy and get her to not bother the hell out of me..I'll even buy the ring lol

- Response by thewickedestslam, A Father Figure, Male, 29-35, New York, Administrative

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I have yet to experience that. But my chic's brother is friends with his ex/kids mom and he's cool with her new husband. I guess if he could do it, I can too.

- Response by guitarplayer2010, A Creative, Male, 36-45, New York, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Yes. I don't have a complex of thinking I'm the only person another can desire once desired, and I tend to hang out with people without that mental charade as well.

- Response by afirecracker, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28

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I don't know about friends. But one thing is for sure I have her respect and she has mine.

- Response by seasons4, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Milwaukee, Financial / Banking

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I don't hate her or ignore her all together but I don't have to be friends if my *husband* and her don't get along. If they do then why would I detach/separate myself from her?, we could be together to against him *sometime* when he be bad, ha ha. After all, it's for the kids's sake too

Keep distant with someone who you can't relate is the way to go

Peace~~

- Response by azianchemistry, A Player, Female, 46-55, San Francisco, Who Cares?

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I could, yes, if given the opportunity.

But my ex seems to date these seriously jealous women who are determined to hate me before they even meet me. The most recent one actually called me and left me a hateful voicemail because she had been going through his phone and saw that he and I had talked on the phone a few times. We DO have a daughter together, so naturally we talk on occasion.

But sure... if he managed to date someone normal, I could easily be friends (or at least friendly) with her. I have no unresolved feelings toward my exes, so I don't see a problem.

- Response by piscesrising, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Boston, Internet / New Media

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I am friends with my ex husbands new wife.

It didn't happen overnight, although we were polite to each other from the beginning.

She didn't have anything to do with our divorce, but came into the picture fairly quickly, when there were still hurt feelings.

She's a wonderful woman, and I'm happy to have her in the family :)

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Seattle

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yes i could if he werent such an asshole!

- Response by sherocks, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Dallas, Internet / New Media

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my experience has been as persisting

for the most part. They hate me before I have a clue

who "they " are. I have always felt that I would naturally

care for the people that I cared about come to be with.

I would certainly always do what ever I would for them just

because like family they are close to someone that I love.


I have a woman who hates me due to a 30ty year old relationship. I am still close to him but she hates me.
behind his back.

I am friends with the now wife of an ex we did not work because

he was younger and did not have children but liked them.

So he had a little girl almost a year ago. And they came

by so that I could meet his daughter. She is very sweet and

when our paths cross we talk about things, such as idea's

concepts and things.

Truely , I do not get , have never got the need to

not befriend anyone . Except for me if the beat me , and

show not remorse for there actions then why would I have anything
to do with them.

- Response by morningdust, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Rochester, Self-Employed

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my x is one of my best friends and my GF is fine with it

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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Hmm tricky Q phenom but I could be friends with just about anyone lol. Most of the time the new gf/wife are the ones with the issue not me!

- Response by dblchocgrl07, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Oddly enough, yes I am. She's a good woman who keeps my ex in line; plus he's absolutely nuts about her, so I'm happy for them. As long as she makes him happy, then I'm good. I think it shows a great amount of character if you can get along with your ex's new partner amicably--but not everyone has that chance.

- Response by lioness21, A Player, Female, 26-28, Consulting

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I wouldn't be friends with an ex, so no.

I think exes should be left in the past. It is an awkward situation for everyone, and it is nothing be trouble.


- Response by myndseye711, A Life of the Party, Female, 26-28, Helsinki, Military

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Only if they broke up. I am in this exact situation. My ex is remarried and she is a wonderful lady (WAYYYY too good for him). It is not however, in anybody's best interest for us to be "friends" while they are together. I KNOW what he's like, and I left him. She will leave him when she is ready. After that, then yeah, we could be friends.

- Response by girldownunder, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Sydney, Medical / Dental

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If he weren't such a jerk of course i would.

- Response by arseniclips, A Trendsetter, Female, 18-21, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I've tolerated the new wives or girlfriends/talked to them but in most cases I talk to them just as much as my exes that I still consider friends and that's rarely. My son's father's wife wanted me to be her best friend since they rarely have any but I get tired of her and him mentioning how much like me she supposedly is (she's nothing like me they just wish she was).

- Response by staceym2112, A Cool Mom, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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I can...and I am. My ex-husband and his wife and I all get along very well - so much so that when I popped by to drop off my son one day, she and I shared a glass of wine - my ex wasn't even there! I should also note that I'm quite friendly with my BF's ex-wife too...

- Response by Nora1968, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Managerial

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