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| Sex & Intimacy / 9:04 PM - Monday February 08, 2010 |
Kinda embarrassed to ask this but... can a guy be too big below the belt?I am probably the only one that feels this way but I wish my boyfriend had a smaller penis. I know that guys are always saying how "big" they are but I just don't know why when the bigger it is the more it hurts. Have any guys ever been told that they are too big? This is a serious question though, my boyfriend is bigger than anyone I have ever been with and although I love being sexual with him, I often want him to stop early because it hurts. I don't want to scare him off by telling him that his dick is too big for me, he has already told me that he's been told that before. I often want to stop having intercourse and finish with oral sex but only because of the pain. We don't get to spend every day with each other so when I see him we kinda go crazy, but then it ends up hurting. We had sex a week ago and I am still sore. I love having sex but this is ridiculous, any one else have this problem? What can I do without offending him or making him feel bad? - Asked by prettyladylady26, A Trendsetter, Female, 18-21, Food Service |
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I have had this problem before, you are not alone. In fact, I was with a guy that had a really wide penis, average length and he actually permanently 'damaged' me persay. I had tried anal with other men before him and he told me one night he wanted to so we did, and it hurt so bad that I was in pain for a very long time. Every time I have tried it since than, even with an average sized guy, it still hurts so bad it makes me want to cry.
- Response by ashleycountry, Female, 18-21, Hospitality
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He needs to learn how to have sex with his big schlong. He simply can't do the things that most guys can. It sounds like he's trying to penetrate you too deeply. He needs to ease off a bit. Try different positions...maybe some in which YOU are in control.
- Response by myndseye711, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Cali, Farming
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He is going at it too hard like a man with a "average" sized penis would--he needs to learn what feels good to you an temper his movements. That is a necessity just because he is bigger. Maybe he doesn't yet understand that. He needs to move slower and shallower until you adapt. It can be worked through if both of you care enough to do it.
- Response by dreamdancer, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Houston, Other Profession
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I just tell MY girlfriend to get over it.
- Response by stillagoodguy1, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Celebrity
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Yes, it is possible for his penis to be too big. I doubt you'll upset him if you tell him this, if anything his ego will probably swell lol. When having sex, if you're on top you'll be the one in charge of the angle, the speed, everything...that's usually the best way to ensure that you don't get hurt.
- Response by pudgeybunny, A Hippie Chick, Female, 22-25, St.Louis, Artist / Musician / Writer
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personally i love em big below the belt. ;) since it is bothering you,why not try a variety of positions til you find the easiest way to handle him. also,if you start off slowly kinda teasing when entering that helps too.you have to help him understand your comfort level. good luck! ;D
- Response by swtnsxy2, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45
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I had same experience and this guy had a big ego as well he wants to be rough and he wants to be dirty talked,lol he told me multiple times to say that he has a good d@#$ but it never happened 'cause it wasn't good to me... just painfull, like the others say if you do like the guy yeah practice different positions, I totally understand the disappointing feeling after wards, take care.
- Response by Daisy1978, Female, 29-35, Washington, DC, Financial / Banking
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I'm rather large below the belt to, but I've found ways to make it work. Do you guys have plenty of foreplay? I remember one woman that I really enjoyed foreplay with her. I'd easily spend 20 minutes or more getting her ready. She'd get incredibly wet. Now here's the key. On top of her wetness I used lube. I tried to be gentle with that first thrust. Once I was in there, things were ok. You have to remember to make sure you are significantly turned on before you let him enter you.
- Response by rjack90, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Baltimore, Science / Engineering
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Women with big "loose" vaginas do better with "big" men. Women who are more normal downstairs do better with average size men.
- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Construction
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