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I never changed my last name with social security when i got married 4 years ago.
Married Life / 4:55 PM - Sunday February 07, 2010

I never changed my last name with social security when i got married 4 years ago.

my husband who was my bf for 20 yrs was cheating on me.he left me with 4 dogs 2 under 1 new house fixer upper.had major surgury in Mar.All in the same month.convinced me to quit my job and do all the packing,moving and every responsibility there was.he just got a promotion to work w the FBI. July he left me and told me i need to worry about myself.he said he is confused and put the house for sale.can someone help me.i cant even think!

- Asked by mvis309, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Administrative

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You have so much on your plate.. you need to see an attorney..
Get all the financial info together.. his job, your bills, all that together in a folder.
make copies for your attorney. Get the attorney to get you immediate support.
Dont take his calls and dont play your hand. Call your friends for support.
Get an i pod to listen to music and get out with your friends.. pamper yourself
get your hair done, go to the gym, eat healthy and dont look back.
Leapords dont change their spots, they just rearrange them. You can do this.
Keep a good diary of all.. go girl

- Response by nbtt, A Sportif, Female, 36-45, Body Work

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I think you need to calm down and just find out the facts.I CAN tell you that in Britain as long as you dont defraud anyone, especially the tax man, you can basically call yourself anything you want.. so if all your mandatory payments to the government agents have been made, and you haven't been evading them your fine

- Response by glasgowbelle, A Married Girl, Female, 46-55, Glasgow, Retired

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get a good lawyer

- Response by busyb704, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

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I'm so sorry!! This is greatly unfair, and your best friend should not have treated you this way. Please, please do not be hard on yourself for choices that he has made.

I can't figure-out what your social security number has to do with your situation, but I'm assuming that you are so overwhelmed with emotion that your logic cannot be accessed yet. This is hard, but you are going to find strength that you never thought you possesed to get you through it.

I wish that I could wrap my arms around you and tell you that things are going to work out. Just take things one step at a time. Ackowlege that you are mourning a loss. Take time to take good care of yourself. (do not numb your pain with alcohol or other vices that will create more harm) Once you can think straight, it will be time to take baby steps toward a brand new, bright future.

We are NOT created to face these life struggles alone. Reach out for help. Counseling, divorce recovery workshops, and a good divorce attorney. Surround yourself with those who will love you unconditionally through this.

Let us know how you are doing, ok? Blessings!

- Response by WAPenPal, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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I would get lawyer a get out of this marrage on and have him give money every month have it taken out of his check to

- Response by candygirl4719, A Thinker, Female, 46-55

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