|Married Life / 10:30 AM - Friday February 05, 2010|
I think i'm still in love with my ex husband...??
My ex husband and I met in July 2007, married in June 2008, seperated in November 2008, then were off and on for 6 months or so and then I moved 300 miles away for work and we completely ended it. Our divorce was finalized 3 months ago. I have a daughter, but she wasn't his, so now there is no communication between us. We fought, a lot, for hours, at least 2-3 days a week. Over everything. I used to think it was all his fault and that he was just horrible. But when I look back, I realize that I was pretty uptight and a lot of it was my fault. Neither of us were faithful towards the end of end and to be honest I gave up long before he did. Well, now, I'm in a stable relationship with my new live-in boyfriend. He is a great guy, he is very good to me and my daughter. But, no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to shake my ex husband off. I think about him daily, not always good thought, usually it just makes me feel hurt. SometimeS I dream about him, but its always about me kicking his new girlfriends a**. I just want to know if this is normal feeling to have after a divorce or do I still love him, or hate him? I can't go on like this and it certainly isn't fair to my boyfriend (who knows nothing about these feelings)... Please help...
- Asked by Female, 29-35
Girl, you nee to slow down and cool your jets. You've done more in 3 months than MOST ppl do in a lifetiem. FOCUS ON YOUR CHILD AND STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF!
It sounds as if your relationship was rocky to say the least. I think it's best to let the past be the past and move on with your life. It sounds as if your new boyfriend is good to both you and your daughter and that's huge! You may want to consider counceling to explore why you are having trouble putting you X behind you. It's not healthy for you or your daughter if you can't move past him.