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Why does doing the right thing hurt so much?
Dating / 8:59 PM - Sunday January 10, 2010

why does doing the right thing hurt so much?

- Asked by iamboo2, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Charlotte, Therapist

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Because it is the right thing. I know it isn't fair but it's soooooo much easier doing the wrong thing especially in a society that rewards those that do the wrong thing. All I can say is that doing the right thing become more of a reward to one's self in that it does contribute to one's self respect, character, and self esteem. And to those that it makes a difference too it does elevate one to a very special level of respect and consideration. This is all before we go into all the other issues surrounding doing the right thing. One thing about doing the right thing, you are much more trusted and respected by those it matters to than those it doesn't.

- Response by canajun, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Vancouver, Self-Employed

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Because it is easy to be bad and wrong. It normally takes on effort to be either one but good on the other hand is usually hard work.

- Response by curioushubby, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

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and what mythology, hallmark card or tarot deck suggested for even a moment that doing the "right" thing might be easy?

- Response by two469, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Seattle, Science / Engineering

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As much as we might wish it were otherwise, one of the reasons why doing the right thing hurts so much is because life is not fair and offers no guarantees. There's a reason why it's said that virtue is its own reward...because doing the right thing primarily for the sake of reward is the wrong reason to do it, and also because there frequently *is* no material or tangible reward for doing the right thing. If we were always rewarded for doing the right thing, people would be motivated to do it more often...but the truth is that people are often forced to choose between what's right and what's personally expedient. My personal belief is that the acid test for a system of ethics are situations in which adhering to your principles either brings you no benefit or requires you to pay a price. If you willingly and knowingly decide to discard or disregard your principles whenever they represent an impediment to something you want, then what you're essentially saying is that the only ethical principle which you really value is self-interest or "the end justifies the means".

- Response by giginyc, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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It doesn't, and whatever ache it may leave at the time, it is much much less than any dishonest action will impose in ways that will leave no out, nor pardon.

- Response by serentan, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Because we need a way to separate the good people from the bad people.

- Response by donuthate, A Creative, Male, 18-21, Phoenix, Who Cares?

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It really only hurts if we don't want to do the right thing, but know we should.

Be someone you can be proud of. Remember, you have to look at yourself in the mirror for the rest of your life.

Not doing the right thing, will produce more hurt in the long run, than doing the right thing now. That's why its right!

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 56-65, Phoenix

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Let's put it this way: The LIE (the wrong thing) always feels good, doesn't it?

- Response by awsum1, A Life of the Party, Male, Who Cares?, Chicago

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A wise man once said that wrong is like a wide open highway and most people find it. But right is a very narrow path and very few people find it.
Good luck on that search.

- Response by hrdmn10, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Other Profession

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it is against our instincts

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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