|Dating / 7:42 AM - Monday December 14, 2009|
Will a guy like a loner like me?
I'm a nice, attractive woman and a professional. But, I don't get many dates. Mostly it's because I don't do typical things like clubbing, I never have. And I don't have friends. What I really have are acquaintances. I grown used to being alone. I do like it at times, but sometimes I'd like to have relationships with people. The problem is that I've put so much effort into making friends in the past, trusting people, but as I got older, I got tired of being let down and don't put much effort anymore. Also, it seems like people are so self-absorbed these days, and so disconnected. People don't having meaningful conversations, or help one another. They rather have 1,000 superficial relationships on Facebook. So, with how I lead my life, I've become a loner. With the exception of work, my personal phone hardly ever rings. One week, only 3 people called me -my mom, an ex, and my neighbor. I don't get invited out either because I don't hang in a clique and I don't have girlfriends. And, a major problem with my lifestyle is that I wonder if a guy will find it unattractive that I don't have friends, or if I'll EVER meet someone. I really long to have a romantic relationship, and be with someone that enjoys me wanting to be his friend and lover. Also, the unfortunate thing about being a loner/homebody is that when you want a mate like yourself, it is unlikely to happen because they don't go out much either. So, how can I meet a guy like me? I know I shouldn't be this way, but I don't know how to change. I'd like to build up more of a social circle but I don't know how. Or should I just focus on finding a guy who is more a loner like me?
- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35
You sound like an okay chick... Now, the thing is... WHERE
llz..i wudn't have any problems wid u, nd besides there r lots who have networking problems, so it's not tht ur the only one..so don't feel odd..