You know a guy is using you for sex, when it is all about sex. If a man is interested in you, beyond just sex, you know it. He lets you know that he wants more than just sex by making you his girlfriend and spends time with you and pays attention to you. He talks to you and contacts you without any expectation of sex. If a man is using you for sex and you don't want to be used, then the only way to stop it is to stop seeing him. There is no way to fix it.
For men, sex is sex and feelings aren't always a part of that. Once you get into the dynamic of a just sex situation, it is pretty much all it is ever going to be. You are right, either way, you are going to end up being hurt, because your feelings are involved. His most likely aren't. But isn't it better to be hurt now and move on, than spend your life loving someone who doesn't love you back. I know it is a very painful situation to be in, but you deserve to have someone that loves you and isn't using you.
- Response by iamboo2
, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Charlotte, Therapist