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How can u tell if someone is just using you for money?
Dating / 10:56 AM - Monday November 09, 2009

How can u tell if someone is just using you for money?

She says she wants to be with me but when I ask her if we can be together she always says its not the right time, or she's not completely ready for a relationship. But it seems like she always needs something. She wants me to give her money, take her out to eat places, pick her up when she needs to be picked up, buy her things but I don't understand why I need to be doing all of this if were not together.

- Asked by An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25, San Francisco

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Simple. Stop buying her stuff and see what happens.

I think we both know what the answer is.

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

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Beggars have no choice.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, Who Cares?, Chicago, Who Cares?

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You seem to give, give, and give. What does she give? Any type of relationship goes two ways. Friendship or otherwise....If it's not equal I would consider not wasting your time anymore.

- Response by batman1017, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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Sounds like you just described it to me?

No PLAY no pay!

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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First of all the only person who can stop that is YOU. You don't NEED to do anything. ONce you realize you are the one LETTING her get away with it, then things will get on track.

- Response by lk2mvit, A Life of the Party, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

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She's using you.
The next time she asks for money, a ride, or dinner start saying know and see how long your friendships lasts.

- Response by misssparkle, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Atlanta, Administrative

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So stop being sugar momma to her and see how long she stays around. Tell her she needs to contribute.

- Response by singledad281, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Houston, Hospitality

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the next time she wants something just tell her maybe after you two get serious

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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