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If a man is happily married, why would he cheat?
Sex & Intimacy / 10:58 PM - Friday November 06, 2009

if a man is happily married, why would he cheat?

how does a man separate sex from love? why do women always fall for these men? and if the man does fall in love with the woman, how does he act differently at home?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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I don't want to generalize but it may possibly be because he's bored. For example, I have a BEAUTIFUL girlfriend. She's been married to the same man for 8 years. She's pretty, loyal, sweet, caring, cooks and cleans for him, pampers him, makes good money, is intelligent and has a great career -- basically the perfect wife. Yet, she recently found out he cheated on her with someone who's.... well...let's just say the other woman isn't as beautiful, intelligent, nice etc.... And all of us were so confused and shocked. She'd ask us, "Why would he cheat if I've been nothing but wonderful, loyal etc." ...We couldn't think of any reason. But eventually, we found out from her. She said he was BORED...Can you believe that?

- Response by ladydimples, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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Men who are happily married don't cheat.

- Response by hitman36, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Who Cares?

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When a man is happily married, there is absolutely NO WAY that he would cheat...it's those men in marriages where they might feel like something is 'missing' that will cheat because they get what they need from that woman or because that woman 'reminds' them of the sex appeal he has or whatever...since married men are usually very settled, successful and usually established in a career, women tend to find these types more attractive because they are already the man that the woman would like and that could be a reason why some women fall for these men...some of the ways a man might act differently is to go out at odd hours for no apparent/good reason; coming home late or always having to work late; unexplained expenses that he can't explain; taking better care of his grooming and dressing better; and doing little things for his wife that he never used to do...it really depends on just how obvious 'different' he acts and what he does differently that can be signs but that doesn't mean the signs are the same for everyone, but there are things that one may notice that their man never did before...:D

- Response by fastball, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Self-Employed

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Men are physical...women are emotional. Men cheat because they can. It doesn't mean they are unhappy at home or the woman is horrible....they haven't gotten caught and are getting away with it. Same the other way around to. People cheat because they can. Doesn't make it right, but it still happens.

- Response by lasttrueromantic, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Teaching

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ThIS IS so simple. God gave man an extra gene telling him to procreate,That gene at times over rides his love for one lady. Sad but so true.

- Response by duggers, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older

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Happily married men don't cheat

- Response by ghfan1207, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Home Maker

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Lasttrue is the closest to what I see. I know someone who has everything at home, he has a smart beautiful wife that stands by him in the good and bad days, but he cheats! I don't know exactly about their sex life, but he told me men don't cheat because they don't get what they want at home. It is just they are not monogamy! Men cheat because they can and they want to. It doesn't imply in anyway they have anything wrong at home. Actually this is the lie they say to convince the mistress but its not real!

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

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Happily married men still have sexual desires. Sometimes man can have sex with a woman out of necessity, but not love the woman he just had sex with. It is still cheating though. Most women must fall in love to have sex with a man.

- Response by int24h, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Alternative Medicine

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Happily married men still have sexual desires. Sometimes man can have sex with a woman out of necessity, but not love the woman he just had sex with. It is still cheating though. Most women must fall in love to have sex with a man.

- Response by int24h, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Alternative Medicine

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Duggers actually gave the right biological answer, however, men and women cheat. If they cheat- they aren't really happy. Believe me.

- Response by roaminginsomniac, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Law Enforcement

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You're seeing it from the perspective of why do they cheat? what are the reasons? But men don't cheat intentionally (well, there's always the exception) they cheat because another woman is avaible, is attractive to them and wants them, nothing is stopping him but his own conscience and thats won over by beauty and sexual allure. It's like a game where he can win twice, older men are more succeptible but I don't think they are bad, they just begin to really fancy someone else with a strong attraction that aches.

- Response by anything08, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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If he is cheating, then obviously he is not happily married. His wife might be, but he is not.

- Response by A Creative, Male, 29-35

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