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Single mom dating a divorced guy with a 10 yr old daughter for 2 months, doesn't want me to meet her
Dating / 2:50 AM - Sunday October 18, 2009

Single mom dating a divorced guy with a 10 yr old daughter for 2 months, doesn't want me to meet her

Okay, I know it's early in the relationship, just two months, but I really care for him, and we have become close in many ways. We met online, e-mailed a number of times, talked, then started dating (at least twice a week). He's an amazing person, intelligent, sweet, strong, sensual, but above everything else, an incredible father to a beautiful daughter. What's the problem? He says she's very jealous, and her mother was not in her life for a period of time, so he's concerned about his daughter's, and doesn't think I (or my daughter) should meet at this time. I had suggested that the kids just meet for a play date, very casually at the mall, just to see how things go, but he has been resistant to that. My mother thinks he might be stringing me a long, that he might not even have any intention of us meeting. Am I just kidding myself? I truly hope not. Please help. I don't want to get my heart broken.

Thanks.

- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 36-45

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I raised two children by myself. I felt like your boyfriend about them meeting people that I dated. I tried to keep that away from their lives. They did not need to see or share it. It takes a long time for someone to make the decision to introduce their children to another adult that they are DATING.

I allowed my kids to meet three people that I dated over many, many years. Those three people were people that I had decided I might marry. Only then were they considered to meet my children. I think that is the way it SHOULD BE.

So, I would tell you that this man probably adores you to pieces but he has NOT made that final decision, which bumps you into MARRIAGE MATERIAL. When he does, I am sure you will be the first person to know about it. And, he will most likely invite you to meet his daughter. Be patient. Serious things like this take time.

- Response by randyl, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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