|Married Life / 2:40 PM - Monday October 05, 2009|
My husband lied about female friends, is this marriage fixable?
I have found out that my husband has hidden coorespondence to female co-workers stating friendship only. They are not attractive, but have very strong personalities and self-esteem. Husband states he is not attractive to them, he just likes having conversation. However, when I found out about these two girls, he quit communicating with them ,stating he did not want to upset me. He said he felt like i would never be OK with female friends. I think, if there friends only, why does the friendship stop, and why can't i be included. We have been unhappy for a few years, he refuses counseling, and i can't tell if he is here for the children (3) or for me. He says he loves me, but he acts selfish. We have been married almost 20 years, and are in our young 40s. He still likes to have sex with me, but because of his behavior toward me past few years it has been little and on my part. He acts secretive. I know these girls as we work at the same employer. They usually ignore me. I do not know whether to believe sex was involved or not. I feel humilated, as this has gone on behind my back for past couple of years. Is this marriage fixable? He says he wants to be with me, but how do I tell if it is just for convenience?
- Asked by Female, 36-45
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Is there merit to what he's said? Have you ever been comfortable with him having female friends?