|Friendship / 11:20 PM - Wednesday September 30, 2009|
How to tell a friend you don't want to live with her (and neither does anyone else)
It's junior year of college and my friends and I are looking into housing options for next year. (I know, it's really early but real estate around here is a competitive scene). We all currently live together in a house that an organization we're in owns, but this past summer we decided we all wanted to live together again senior year in apartments. The problem is, now that we live in close quarters we have all noticed that one person in the group is a terrible roommate. She's extremely competitive, passive-aggressive and condescending. She is mean to anyone who is more successful than she is and she arbitrarily gives people the silent treatment for days at a time. You've all had that roommate: the stormy, evil-eye giving, passive-aggressive note-leaving, "debbie downer" (yeah I said it) roommate. If she's not having fun than dammit, nobody else can either. She's a nice person, just insecure. It's too bad that these insecurities manifest themselves in such a disagreeable way. And I know that kicking someone out of a housing agreement isn't exactly a boost to the self-esteem but none of us want to spend our last year of college in the kind of tense, unpleasant environment she creates.
- Asked by kittyscherbatsky, A Career Woman, Female, 22-25, Student
I would wait until she has one of those moods and tell her as friends things are ok but as of room mates it will no longer work out.Be upfront and let her have plenty of time to make other plans.
Hi There. I am in the exact situation right now. My boyfriend and I moved into a 2 bedroom apartment to help my friend out because she couldn't afford to live on her own. The lease will be up in 3 1/2 months and I just can't resign the lease with her. She has some rude, weird habits and when we talk to her, she seems to understand but then doesn't change anything. She doesn't seem to realize anything is wrong and I want to give her 90 days notice before our lease is up because we would like her to leave. How did you end up handling the situation with your uncool roommate?