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Sometimes I think women are cursed.
Sex & Intimacy / 11:23 AM - Wednesday September 30, 2009

Sometimes I think women are cursed.

Aside from all the joys of menstruation, menopause, child-birth, aging (we get uglier while men get better-looking), obgyn visits, birth-control pills, weight-gain (we have an extra layer of fat that men don't have), hormonal chaos which causes us to become raving lunatics once a month....aside from all THAT, we really DON'T know what the hell we want.

We find a man who treats us well, but he's too nice. We find a man who isn't "too nice" but he spends too much time with his friends. Men are easy, women are complicated, which is why most women don't like each other. I really don't know how men put up with us to tell you the truth. Remind me again why I should love being a woman?

Update: October 01, 2009.
I was hoping you girls could give me the positive aspects of being a woman since everything I mentioned IS an issue for us. Just had a bad day and was looking to you guys to have a sense of humor and remind me how great it is to be a girl. Thank God some of you were able to see that.

- Asked by Female, 36-45

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Hello my fellow friend :) .. you are infact one of my kind. A woman and you should be proud of it! Despite all those issues we have in our life, that makes us more special :) .. yes we endure an EXCESSIVE amount of more pain with birth, menstrual cycles, etc, but we are the most desired form. Woman are more beautiful to look at, our bodies have a better structure than men do. We are INFACT the more desired form. We are the person that our child will look up to the most, most of the time, it's 'Mommy' that kids turn to, not the Daddy. And as much as birth I'm sure hurts like hell, it's kind of a gift to be able to bring a life into the world in that way. Don't get me wrong, 9 months of pregnacy and an epideral must suck butt, but the idea of it is amazing. And we have breasts! Men don't, that's why they love them so much :) .. we have the ability to walk on heels (which can be a terrible situation at times) but their sexy! We can wear make-up, paint our nails, wear a beautiful dress or skirt or outfit... our lives have many more exciting factors in it than the male does. Our hair, we can change the color, style much more than a guy can... these are just silly little things but combined, they mean a lot! :)
You're a woman, go out there and strutt your stuff! Confidence is sexy! :)

- Response by dolcevita3, An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25, Student

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'nuff said

- Response by northerner, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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You can wear whatever you want. You don't have to go around fearing looking gay or not womanly enough. You can be sexually exited everywhere, anytime and noone knows. You don't have to shave your face to look moderately human. You can love men. No one thinks you are weird if you make babyspeak to strange children. After the menopause, you are free from pills and monthly pain. Don't believe that you are looking ugly, the important thing at any age is to look healthy and stay slender. Men do look just as bad as women when older if they do not follow this. Bonestructure is everything, and you can't see that if you are too fat.
Be grateful for you body, is is you, it is the only way you can interact with the world. Men put up with us because we put up with them. They like us.

- Response by klaxometro, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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have you actually look at men lately. They age too - they are human (well most of the time)

- Response by maniacalme, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Houston, Executive

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Well, I can't speak for you, but I LOVE being a woman! And not all women are like what you're describing. LOL, and the way you describe women, you make us seem like monsters or aliens from another planet.

Build up your confidence in being a woman and most importantly, you need to believe in yourself and get some self esteem, very HIGH self esteem, then you wouldn't be thinking so negative about being who and what you are.

WOMEN ROCK!!!!

- Response by augustbaby82, A Married Girl, Female, 26-28, New York, Financial / Banking

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Ah, the privileges of Patriarchy!

Combat deaths-- 99.9% male
Workplace deaths-- 94% male
Homicides-- 76% male
Suicides-- 74% male

- Response by chesterdad, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, San Francisco

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Many of the negative aspects you mentioned are cultural, not natural. Women are de-valued by man-made world-views, in which most of us have been raised.

Many centuries ago, in many societies, old women were revered for their wisdom and knowledge, and young women were worshipped for their ability to give life and it was goddesses who ruled the spiritual world, NOT gods. It's only with the advent of patriarchal, misogynistic religions like Christianity and Islam that those cultures were wiped out. Read a bit about "the burning times" - the ultimate holocaust against women, perpetrated by the Catholic church in the Dark and Middle Ages.

We've been raised to dislike ourselves and to believe that men are "better" just because we're different from them. Just don't buy into it.

- Response by justpassingthru, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking

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because not all of us feel the way that you do. I love other women. I wouldn't trade my female friends for the world. Plus, i know what i want out of life and from a man.

- Response by beanielou, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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I love being a woman.

Childbirth was definately the most physically painful experience of my life, but I would not trade being a mother for anything in the world. I had level 3 endometriosis for years (couldn't afford surgery) but was never a raging lunatic during menstration. Menopause wasn't so bad. Yes, I am 100% uglier than when in my teens. However the wisdom, maturity, compassion, confidence, and true friendhips I have gained outweigh the weight I've accumulated.

Truly, men have struggles in life too. Their's are different from ours due to hormones, but their lives are not as easy as you imply.

I have a feeling that there is more going on with you my dear than your question regarding happiness with being a woman. What is your real issue today?

- Response by WAPenPal, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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Truer words were never spoken. I was married to a woman like this for 18 years and made my life a living hell.

- Response by ereculus, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Boston, Other Profession

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You are as cursed as you choose to be.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Construction

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I could &^@! you right now, " Female, 36-45 " ... for making/ posting such a %$^##>< statement ...


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- Response by A Creative, Male, 26-28, Johannesburg, Internet / New Media

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we can look good in guys cloths and not look weird.
we can get out of traffic tickets if where good lol.
we can smile or bat our eye lashes and get our way.
people buy us stuff - we get free things( 4 example drinks at the bar ) guys don't get bought drinks lol.
we have more clothing and toys and things to do then guys do.
girls can have fun with out doing life threatening things.
and there's more i know i just can't think of any but your right. And the reason guys deal with us we make great lovers amazing baby's and all the things we do for guys and all they do for us we just need each other.

- Response by delialove, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Who Cares?

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Because that's all you got. You are the master of your own destiny though.

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Boston, Science / Engineering

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Men have problems too. Maybe you're thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. It isn't. Instead of looking at the negative aspects of being a woman, find the positives.

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 26-28, London

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I have to admit .. I totally agree with you. It really is a bitch (pun intended) to be a woman for real. Although I am definetly happy I'm not walking around with a cock between my legs and a beer gut :)

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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I got some non-complicated traits and men like that, but then, they want a more "feminine" complication and high maintanance when it comes to relations!!
Don't worry, they can be really contradictive too..wanting an "angel" while they have been around more times than the number of their haircells........

- Response by coccinelle, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Internet / New Media

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men have it bad too. they are expected to have great jobs and provide for their family. if they don't they are seen as failures. men are expected to pay for most things, most of the time. men have to ask out the girl. men have to worry about erectile dysfunction. they are seen as weak if they show emotion. men are expected to be strong. if a man has car trouble is anyone likely to stop and help? if you hit a man in the testicles it hurts like hell (so says my husband). men have to worry about hair loss. i could go on but you get the idea. being a woman has it's ups and downs and so does being a man. cheer up. being a woman is great. just look at the positives instead or the negatives.

- Response by suekiss49, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Detroit, Who Cares?

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You are a negative person. It is your attitude that makes YOU get uglier with age, not the actual aging process.

Most women I have seen in your age bracket or absolutely lovely physically.

Don't blame being a woman for all of your problems, blame your attitude.

- Response by lovelylife, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?

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exactly. thats why i laugh when women say taht god is a woman. if god WERE a gender, he'd definitely be a man, and he WAS a man as jesus.

- Response by foonlord, A Creative, Male, 26-28, San Francisco, Internet / New Media

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