|Friendship / 12:57 AM - Monday September 28, 2009|
Why would someone just stop talking to you?
I work with a really nice person that just quit talking to me, tried one text and one FB message. Answers everything in "one" word comments at work. Should I just give up? We seemed to be good friends, don't know what happened?. Help?
- Asked by kmf1, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Minneapolis, Who Cares?
I'm having the same problem with a co-worker. This is the second time that she does this to me. Its very annoying. The first time she apologized to me and said that she shouldnt have treated me that way. She is acting very childish. The worst part is that we all sit in a small office together. It's to the point that I dont want to be alone with her because she just ignores me and if I ask her a question she is very short with me. I'm so sick of her. She makes it a point to be super nice to my other co-worker and anyone else that walks in. The first time it happened I just asked her if I did something and she said no. The weekend went buy and on Monday she was happy again. A few days later she apologized. Now it's happening again. However, this time I am just keeping to myself and ignoring her. I dont have time for this. I just dont want to work with her anymore. Her moods are too much and very unprofessional.
I work in an open office and it's trial by fire with people. I'm not very social to begin with, but I am not fake nice. If you're nice to me I'm nice to you, but I keep it civil and short. I only speak to the people I need to, and leave everyone else alone. I trust noone and I get my job done and go home to my family. My reasoning is the less I know these people, and the less I let them in, the less they're apt to talk about me. If they do, they'd have to make something up, as I do not gossip and I cannot stand gossip, perhaps that's why I don't get along with most. That's all they do is backstab and talk sh*t about one another. I'm easily annoyed by chit chat anyway and I feel I don't like anyone enough to invest in them emotionally so I just do my job and don't talk. So if someone has a problem with me, it's their problem. I stopped caring long ago. My family is my source of happiness and we're successful and we live pretty comfortably so I assume that's a source of jealousy. I'm seen as aloof and detached, which is fine. I've never been a 'team player' and I'm here for one reason, to do my job. I don't hang out with anyone from my work and have no reason to. I'm not mean, I have nothing to say. So stop worrying about what so-and-so thinks or feels, because most of the time it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them and their insecurities. The less you worry about co-workers, the happier you'll be. I can't wait to be done with them once and for all.