|Sex & Intimacy / 4:18 PM - Friday September 25, 2009|
How do I get my boyfriend to pay more attention to me?
Okay, it's not like he completely ignores me, but sometimes I don't feel like he thinks I'm pretty enough. He's always looking at naked pictures of girls on porn sites, even when I'm in the other room with the door wide open taking a bath. I always have to start texting him before he text me, but it's the other way around when he text our roommate, and he'll text her back before he even bothers reading my text message. He tells her how great she looks when she's going out.. He doesnt tell me I'm pretty but maybe once every now and then. He told me that he needed to work on parts of our relationship, and that he would start asap, but nothing has happened. He's always so secretive. I didnt even know that he has a business trip to Louisville this tuesday. A mutual friend had to tell me. Yet, he tells them he's all excited about this trip and how much fun it's going to be.. When I try to talk to him about something I thought was interesting, he doesnt pay attention.. He'll cut me off and start talking about something that happend on TV. What am I supposed to do? I always feel insecure now.
- Asked by elf713, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Student
It sounds like he's already in the process of moving on and hasn't bothered to tell you yet. Texting your roommate but not you, not telling you about important trips, not listening to anything you say...maybe he's hoping you will catch on and dump his sorry ass so he won't have to tell you it's over. You shouldn't be feeling insecure though. It's not YOU that's sneaking around and refusing to invest in the relationship. The best thing to do would be to cut your losses and find someone who will appreciate you. Just my opinion.