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Why do men play the hot and cold games?
Dating / 8:46 PM - Friday September 04, 2009

Why do men play the hot and cold games?

One minute he's all smiles and saying hi, looking for me; the next day he ignores me. This has been going on for months on and off...what gives? Advice?

Update: September 05, 2009.
I want to send an email to him asking him if I've pissed him off or something. His response rate to my emails is about the same...answers some and we have had some interesting back and forth conversations and ignores others I send. I see him a number of times a week at the gym since we workout at the same time (this is where everything started)so I don't want things to be uncomfortable. Would sending the email be a bad idea...should I just wait it out or try and get over this? (not sure I want to yet).

- Asked by A Creative, Female, 46-55

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It means the same thing as when women do it to men: that you're the backup. He's after some other woman.

- Response by istillhatescreennames, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 66 or older

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Because many men have no freakin idea what the hell they want!!!!

- Response by almostcoolmom4, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, New York, Other Profession

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your strategy should be to stop trying to figure it out and put your energy into finding someone who is more confident and straightforward with their interest in you.

- Response by meowmeowww, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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So that you will do EXACTLY what you are doing right now: wondering.

Screw that!


- Response by myndseye711, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Vladivostok, Technical

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Dish out what you get
- who does he think he is?

he probably thinks he's too good for you
(or most women)- AS IF!

that type is selfish in bed as well...

screw him! (or better not - let him screw himself... he'll probably like it)


- Response by rubyrednotdead, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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I had one of them too, til I disappeared, now there is no decision to make cuz I made it for myself.

- Response by daffodils2008, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Medical / Dental

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