she is going Bridezilla!
she is going to HAVE TO change her mind. HOW are you going to have family reunions, christmas parties, without the kids being around you?
(Lets hope the bitch is barren!haha)
She is being very illogical.
I have the same Judgments placed on me, because I had sex with a dog when I was 9 years old. I was "pretending" I had a husband and play-acting sex with a female dog. We grinded parts and I stuck the end of her tail up in me. I was NINE, my hormones were just coming in and I WANTED A HUSBAND!
so, like people play Barbies, I Played SEX. and I played Stripper a lot, but that is a whole 'nother story. (the most corrupt thing I was exposed to was the show Married..With Children) Nothing weird happened, I was born naturally horny at a very young age.
I think hormones are kicking in for people at a younger age than they know what to do with....
I Lost a good friend when I told her the Dog story. I thought she would be OK with it... i was a CHILD! 9 years old and dumb..
But she freaked and said i am NOT normal and I lost a good friend years back.
What I did was embrace it, It is a truth about ME, I dont have to hide anything... My parents STILL do not know, but I have told a few boyfriends and close friends.
If someone is going to reject you because of something like THAT, they are very shallow and Not worty of your friendship in the first place. You see where their loyalties lie.(with appeasing society and NOT with personal relationships, understanding, putting yourself in someone else's shoes)
That is how Hitler got so many killed, by the soldiers wanting to Please Society and thier Boss.
I am very sorry this is happening to you.
This too Will Pass.
something has got to give.
It is going to be VERY inconvenient for her to keep the kids away from thier Aunt.
My Dad has a "black sheep" of the family, a slutty sister who they DISOWNED. She had a couple kids out of wedlock and Dad's family is CATHOLIC brainwashed bad...
yes, they did disown her completely. that is soo old-fashioned and pointless! It only hurts people. I was told about her by MOM when I turned 18.
After age 18, i was allowed to meet and talk to her. she is actualy pretty cool, she was MODERN ahead of her times. lived with men, tried Pot, I think she ran off to get eloped at one point, had babies out of wedlock, but back in like the 50's! YIKES!
More than likely, she will change her mind?
I really wish the best for you.
There is not anything you can DO to change a person's mind.
You could be a Good moral person and set a good example of who you are NOW?
does SHE go to church and you dont? Might want to examine these things.
DONT FIGHT with her! She is future family...
Ask your brother to talk with her. tell her that everyone has done something stupid they probably shouldn't have done... when you point at someone else, you have three fingers pointing right back at yourself.
If she is this unforgiving of a person, is he sure he wants to marry her? Seems illogical..
PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES! She has, he has, you have, I have, everyone has.
she needs to LET IT GO!!!
You could PRAY calmly and meditate for her to find forgiveness and not place Judment upon others.
She is placing judgment, which is SIN.
Who is SHE to determine what LEVEL of wrong it was? odd situations occur in life and you just have to make the best of them.
She might have been very sheltered and spoiled..she can't EMPATHISE with you or him.
Well, basically, it is just going to be very hard for her to keep the kids AWAY from you since their father is your brother.
That close of family is HARD to avoid.
It is going to be her burden.
and you know what, when those kids get older, teens and up, they will go TOWARD what is forbidden. every time! rebellious teens.
they'll probably talk to you a lot more when they get into rebellious stage. Oh, you'll be seeing them!
Teens do things just to spite the parents.
You are their Aunt for crying out loud.
This lady is being a Brat, unforgiving, Bridezilla,
I am going to pray for her Character.
- Response by discotrash
, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Las Vegas, Other Profession