Want to know what a woman will look like after marriage? Look at her mother.
When I was single I'd always heard that if you want a good indicator of whether your wife will keep herself up or let herself go after marriage, look at her mother.
At one time I believed this to be mostly true and there were normal weight women I refused to date because of their overweight mothers.
But my wife is different. I met her and fell in love with her before I met her mother, so I was really disappointed when I met her mom and she was very obese, like 400 lbs.
I've been married for 11 yrs now, my wife has had 3 babies and is still very fit and in shape at 5'8 and 118 lbs (and no, she's not too skinny, she just has a very small frame. Her BMI is low but her doctor says she's perfectly healthy). And her mother is still every bit of 400 lbs, maybe more than that, has a host of health problems and rarely leaves the house.
So obviously my mother-in-law wasn't a good indicator of how well my wife would maintain herself.
I know what the stats say about overweight parents being more likely to have overweight children. My father-in-law is also obese, but not to the same degree as his wife. My wife has two brothers and neither of them are the slightest bit overweight either. But the old saying seems to only be applied to women anyway.
I know statistics would support that mothers would be a good indicator of how the woman will look later, but in my observations that's not actually true as much as I would have thought. I'm finding out now that most of the women from my single days that I'd labeled future fatties based on their mothers are still not overweight. I have a cousin who is a nurse in a bariatric clinic, and he's said before that it's amazing how many of these severely obese women at the clinic have daughters who are normal weight and smoking hot. So what do you suppose is happening here? Do these daughters just make a greater effort knowing what the statistics are and seeing what morbid obesity has done to their parents? Or could those statistics be a bunch of bull? What have you found based on your experience or observation?
Update: August 12, 2009.
Ok, I just wanted to clarify on the comment made about my cousin at the bariatric clinic. Most of the patients at that clinic are in the 50-65 range and their daughters aren't that "young", they're adult women 25+ who are helping their mothers, many of whom are considered to be disabled because of the degree of their obesity. Nothing unhealthy about noticing attractive women.
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