|Sex & Intimacy / 4:10 PM - Sunday August 09, 2009|
My boyfriend shows me no affection :(
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and he just doesn't seem interested. At the beginning he was really into me and loved being around me but things have changed dramatically. He now just doesn't bother making any effort what-so-ever to kiss me, hold me, give me any kind of compliment. The only way I would get any affection is if I made the move but even at that he's very blunt and everything seems forced with him. It hurts that the man who says he loves me just doesn't want to be near me. I feel affection is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship but sometimes when we are together I just feel like we are 2 friends hanging out. When I tell him how it bothers me I get told I have issues!! Its not like I ask for full on public affection, I just want to be held or kissed when we are alone together now and again. I have finished it a number of times and he has suddenly changed his tune and begged me to come back and for 2-3 days its bliss but then he goes back to his old ways. I have caught him texting other girls inappropritely before and heard rumours but he swears they are lies and he would never hurt me. I know I sound like a mug but surely some people out there know where I'am coming from...what do I do?
- Asked by A Trendsetter, Female, 22-25, Glasgow
Well, you've told him how you feel and when he's not taken you seriously, you dumped him, then he promised to change and you took him back, and the cycle went on....
Tell him straight up what you want! Tell him you NEED more attention and affection. My boyfriend is only less affectionate when we are around other people, other than he is all over me- kissing, cuddling, holding, etc- and we've been together for 2 years. So it is def not a good sign that he has already stopped being affectionate only 7 months into the relationship. If he doesnt change- leave him. Also, I would be a bit concerned about those texts you mentioned, it may be possible that he isn't giving you attention because he is giving it to some other girl..