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BF has told me start hanging out with my friends on Saturdays. Break up ?
Dating / 1:48 PM - Thursday August 06, 2009

BF has told me start hanging out with my friends on Saturdays. Break up ?

BF has told me start hanging out with my friends on Saturdays.
been together 6 months
he blames his son and other stuff as reasons he thinks he will be late or cancel a lot from now on.
his wife has custody saturday nights so i dont understand

he said he knows it sounds bad but maybe i should start hanging out with my friends on saturday nights and then he can meet up with me later


he told me this the SAME night he picked me up 2 hours late because he was a black tie event.
He picked me up while still dressed in black tie
and I felt left out and hurt that he would then suggest I start doing stuff on my own Saturdays.


it sounds like he is either trying to slowly dump me OR turn me from his agreed upon 'exclusive relationship gf into a mere booty call'

we only see other saturdays at this point sinc ehe is so busy with two companies so its killing off our one night.

is this just a cowardly but clever BREAK UP ?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Self-Employed

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Sorry, it sounds like he is slowly weaning you away and trying to be kind and tactful about it.
Saturday night is a prime date night. Only one date night per week, sad. I know what is on your mind is when you said,"trying to slowly dump me OR turn me from his agreed upon 'exclusive relationship gf into a mere booty call'.
I personally think he has met someone else. His relationship with the new person has not advanced enough to where they are a couple. If he has you simmering on the back burner for later on Saturday night then he has the best of both worlds.
You be the brave one and find someone who does have time for you.



- Response by sisterwoman, A Career Woman, Female, 56-65, Medical / Dental

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It's useless to guess what he really meant. He might want to slow down the relationship, or he might be really busy on Saturdays because of his son and his business. It's more important to ask yourself what you want. If it's not something that you're willing to accept, then there's not much room left - it doesn't even matter what his true intention is. Good luck!

- Response by andreagillels, A Creative, Female, 22-25, New York

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I'm not sure about breaking up, but you definitely need to do some serious talking. You need to tell him what you want out the relationship as well as what he wants.

- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 26-28, Student

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He's not into you. He was 2 HOURS LATE to come pick you up? That's just wrong! Have some respect for yourself and dump this loser.

- Response by azenqt7, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, New York, Who Cares?

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Heres a thought!
Maybe he's tired of hearing your mouth about the lack of time he has for you, perhaps he feels bad that he doens't have time for you, perhaps he has to do what he says he needs to do.
If you know that you need more then these scraps of time your getting from him break it off and move on. You only see him once a week anyway, and I think your doing yourself a misservice but not having the relationship that you really want to have.

- Response by misssparkle, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Military

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