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Am I being obsessive or too attached?
Married Life / 7:21 PM - Tuesday July 21, 2009

Am I being obsessive or too attached?

My wife is taking a trip to California to visit her relatives.

I don't really like or trust her family in a lot of ways, but I'm not going to force her to ignore them or cut off contact.

Since she left, which has been 5 days now, I can barely sleep at all. I feel empty and I miss her like crazy. I can still go to work and do everything, but it just really sucks to come home at night and know she's not going to be there. And what drives me nuts is that I know she's coming back at the end of the week, but I still feel like this.

Am I being obsessed or too possessive of her by feeling like this?

- Asked by brondo55, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 22-25, Other Profession

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No you don't.

This feelings just let you know she is a very important in your life to make you feel complete as God made men and women for a reason; to be together. You have found your soul mate and should be appreciated what you have, and never take her for granted. If you still function then you just miss her, why don't you plan something special for her when she coming back. A quiet romantic night with warm bath, hot oil, light music, massage, home cooked meal ( doesn't have to be fancy), and a lot of affectionate, hot sex..She will know how much she meant to you and she will appreciate that

Distance does make heart fonder!!!

Cherish her




- Response by azianchemistry, A Player, Female, 46-55, San Francisco, Who Cares?

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Yes you are being insecure and have separation anxiety.

- Response by boggob, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Political / Government

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I think you just miss her terribly.It is not uncommon at all as there are many people have the same feelings as you describe.I would suggest using your time wisely until her return.Make dinner reservations,someplace romantic.Let her know how much you missed her but also ask how the trip was and how her family is.You may not care for them but is shows respect to her.She will see the man she married,not obsessed or possesive but a caring loving husband.

- Response by gracieteam86, Female, 46-55, Milwaukee, Self-Employed

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Kinda, yeah. I would say you are showing signs of insecurities. I know how you feel, my husband works out of town all the time and when we first got together, I stayed home with the kids while he was away. I drove myself crazy, made myself sick with worry and in truth I was only hurting myself. He didn't know nor would he have cared that I was paranoid. It took a long time for me to come to terms with my own insecurities, but I was able to do that. He still travels, but I've learned to look foreword to his out of town trips. I don't have to share the bed, and clean up for just me is a breeze! You'll be alright, just stop thinking about what could happen- chances are she is missing you just as much.

- Response by eclipse, A Creative, Female, 29-35, San Francisco, Artist / Musician / Writer

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i kind of know how u feel ive been with my guy for almost 3 yrs and im just so used to sleeping with him and having him near me the problem is he is a geology major and he has fieldtrips, right now he is in a six week fieldtrip and i miss him like crazy but i trust him and i know we will make up for lost time when he gets back

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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To me this means how much you love her and miss her..

- Response by divalicious, A Trendsetter, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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Something tells me her family doesn't like you if they didn't even bothering inviting you on the trip.

- Response by lmarks, A Life of the Party, Male, 26-28, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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