I can't decide if I like my best guy friend as more than a friend...
My best guy friend and I have been friends for about a year. He honestly is my best friend - I feel comfortable telling him anything and talking to him about everything. Conversation flows easily, and I trust him more than anyone. I always have a good time when I hang out with him - he's constantly making me laugh, which is something I love. This guy treats me better than any guy I've ever known, and respects me and my values. I have never met someone like him, and I know in my heart that if he was ever my boyfriend, he would treat me like a princess, because he thinks that's what I deserve. Sometimes when I'm around him, I can see us being together as more than friends, and I can see everything being perfect. But then there are other times when it's just not there for me. He thinks I'm playing games with him, and I can understand why he thinks that, but I'm genuinely confused.
This guy has been telling me for quite sometime that he liked me a lot more than a friend, and he's tried (and succeeded) to prove to me time and time again that he would be the best boyfriend ever. I always pushed him away, telling him I just saw him as a friend because of the fact that sometimes, that chemistry wasn't there. Finally he got to his breaking point and didn't speak to me for about 5 weeks. Now, we're talking again, and he told me how incredibly hurt he was. I really think it's taken losing him in order for me to realize how much I care about him, and how great we might be together. I won't get to see him until September, though, because we live so far away - we only go to school together. I talk to him every single day. I know he has his guard up very high against me because of how I hurt him so badly, and I know it will be hard for me to get another shot because he won't want to risk putting his heart out there and being rejected another time. I want to respect this wish of his, but I also can't help how I'm feeling about him now. I'm not positive about the way I feel, but I feel more sure about this now than I did before we stopped talking that we would be perfect together.
Long story, I know, but any advice on ANY of the above? What should I do?
- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25