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Do true feelings come out when someone is drunk?
Dating / 1:43 PM - Thursday July 09, 2009

Do true feelings come out when someone is drunk?

My new BF drunk dialed me the other night and shared some feelings with me. The next morning he called me and said he was "buzzed up" and asked if he said anything stupid.

My question is: Should I believe what he said to me when he drunk dialed? Are people more likely to speak openly about their feelings when they are under the influence? What do you think....?

- Asked by Female, 36-45

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When one drinks, his/her control on senses is very much loosened. In that state, he may say some things which he will not want to say in sober state.

- Response by counsellor, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 66 or older, Delhi, Self-Employed

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no.. women like to believe that because a guy babbles about stuff they want to hear but real feelings DO NOT COME OUT WHEN DRUNK

- Response by smartblond, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Charlotte, Self-Employed

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I've come to the conclusion that it's best to completely ignore people's drunken ramblings. Because usually it means nothing.

However, if your bf starts making a habit of getting so drunk that he doesn't remember what he said the next day, that would be cause for concern.

- Response by piscesrising, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Boston, Internet / New Media

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It seems that since drinking is proven to lower one's inhibitions, they might actually be telling you some things they are less inclined to when sober.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

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Just this past 4th of July i was drunk...and said horrible, mean things to my husband...Mean things a woman should never say to a man. Anyways...I didn't all..until he told me the next day...was it true???...NO ofcourse not...I just felt like saying stupid shit...your ex is just being childish(like me) and maybe he just wants attention.

- Response by daysimay, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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many can 'bull S***' better when drunk!!!!

- Response by maniacalme, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Executive

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A drunk persons words are a sober persons thoughts.

- Response by me45613, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Administrative

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only if he is a sober liar

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 46-55, New York, Who Cares?

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I know a guy who is all over me when he drinks, but supposedly he's going out with another girl...a girl he dumped me for. Sometimes an asshole is just an asshole.

- Response by waitinggirl22, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Los Angeles

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I think they mean what they say at the time (when drunk, feelings are often heightened, especially feelings of love or attraction); however I think what they feel when they are sober is more closer to their true feelings.

- Response by sunset77, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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I had a boyfriend that told me he loved me when he was drunk. This was the first time he said so I did not say it back. Waited until he said it again when sober and then I said it too. He asked me why I waited and I told him I wanted to be sure he meant it. He laughed and said I do remember saying that you know. Ha. I guess it depends on the person. If someone is inhibited they might tell more truth when drunk. The fact that he asked you if he said anything stupid means he was probably too drunk to be truthful or he would remember what he said without asking you.

- Response by dreamdancer, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Houston, Other Profession

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Yes, people are more likely to speak openly about their feelings when they are under the influence.

I know that which is why I am very careful who around whenever I am drunk.

- Response by sleeksasy06, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Husband said very cold cruel thing to wife about a physical condition of her when he was drunk. He says he does not remember. What do you think?

- Response by A Life of the Party, Female, 66 or older

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I had an experience with a drunken man.. Caught uo in a moment for being there for a couple of kids that been thru hell.. Shocked me when emotions n hopes n dreams came out out.. left me torn for a month.. After a month he called didnt ever remember that day n night at all.. However does love me nn blah balh blah cant believe a word he says.. Makes it hard we are both related,to same kids we both continue to help n im in love with him n cant do nothing bout it..,n drunken moment nessed everything uo..

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, New York

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So do you plan to continue dating your alcoholic?

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Managerial

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Come on, he doesn't even remember what he said. People are more likely to be open but they are also more likely to lie. I would rather have someone tell me stone cold sober then three sheets to the wind.

- Response by livestolaugh, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Managerial

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Don't take the drunk talk seriously. Sometimes it's a reflection of true feelins, but usually it's just babble.

- Response by uniquelyme2, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

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You should immediately lose a little respect for anyone who drunk-dials you.

- Response by bigmacc, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Rochester

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To be totally and utterly honest, I haven't ever met anyone who 'admitted' to saying their true feelings when drunk because they tend to think that it was the 'alcohol' that made them say those things or they were 'braver' as a result of the alcohol...if I believed every drunk person on everything they said, I would probably end up angry or hurt by a lot of them...:D

- Response by fastball, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Self-Employed

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