|Family & Parenting / 7:20 AM - Friday June 19, 2009|
I want a baby but my boyfriend doesn't yet?
Me and my boyfriend both have steady reliable jobs....we are both at the stage we want to b with our careers. We have a house....and everything else that we wanted as individuals. We have travelled etc etc. I am now more than ready to have a child and it seems it's all I think about at the mo. Problem is that he says he doesn't want a baby yet....and he wants to wait about 5years. I'm ok with waiting, as I understand that we both have to want this for us to have a happy family. I'm just worried that he is saying this to keep me quiet and that he doesn't really want a child. A previous relationship of his ended because she was pregnant but when the baby was born he found out it wasn't his. When we first got together he had said that having a baby would b the worst thing that could happen to him....although over time this has changed to not yet. Just a little bit of advice would b really helpful? Thanks x
- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 26-28
Both partners have to want to have a baby or the time is not right. Your boyfriend would resent you pushing for a baby when he isn't ready yet. You need to wait. Rosey
Your boyfriend is wise not to have a baby with a woman he is NOT married to and when he is so young. What is your big rush? Why do you expect a man to commit to raising a whole human being with you for 18+ years if you two haven't even committed to spending YOUR lives together?