MEN should STOP taking advantage of women by using them for FWB relationships.
********The following is a good question posted by someone else: Honestly why is it that everyone is always yammering on about the women's role in the FWB relationships and about how stupid they are for getting themselves into these situations - they aren't acting alone here... HELLO? Why can't the man take some responsibility? Everyone knows women are emotionally involved when in comes to sex, men don't care, they take advantage anyway and deal with the fall out later. Come on... it takes two to tango.********
Most of the responses to this said that women go into it knowingly and could say no, or some bullshit. This is assuming that they've both really sat down and talked about how it's going to be before they do it. Everyone's thinking of the meet some random person at a club and then have some drunken, casual sex situation, in which case there never was any "friend" involved was there? >>>Most guys actually won't even ask for the FWB relationship until way after they've wooed and charmed the chick into getting the first piece of ass, which of course makes the chick think that there's something more. You see because guys are the sweetest ever, opening doors, charming, saying whatever they need to say, holding hands, being romantic and basically acting like they want SOMETHING MORE than just sex. And it's not until after a few times that the woman actually realizes that that's all it really is. The guy then tries to pull the FWB card because he knows she's sucked in. And yes she could then say no, but she has been emotionally snared AND THAT IS WRONG.
Update: June 06, 2009.
First off, plenty of people post things that aren't questions here, but mere opinions and even recipes. If you don't want to read it all, then don't. And this isn't a problem for me. It once was and I see it all around, which is why it still pisses me off.
Secondly, it's not always an issue of giving it up too quickly. I can't speak for other women, but I'm sure there are others out there who have had similar situations, where they have demanded more and not settled for less. Where they have made it clear what they want. They've known the man as a friend first and he says and does things to show that he is a good guy. Later on they both decide to enter into a relationship and the man agrees that's what it is and that's what he wants. And months and months go by and then finally they become intimate. Then right after he gets what he wants he becomes distant and decides he wants to take things backwards and be just FWB.
Men who see a woman they want will rise to the challenge to get her. I've seen men who have waited and gone the distance only to leave after the thrill of the catch. Just how long are we supposed to wait in order to "weed out" the manipulative assholes? Just because people want something more substantial does not mean they should be abstinent forever because there are so many guys who try and justify their shady ways. Sure the woman can get out, but that doesn't change the damage that's been done.
- Asked by sweetievee
, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35