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What happens if you miss a probation appointment?
Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:14 PM - Thursday June 04, 2009

What happens if you miss a probation appointment?

My stepson's stupid mother had him for a few days. He is in ALOT of trouble from when he was living with her and she was never home and got in with a bad crowd.

He is now living with us, is on probation, has to have drug tests, and was supposed to meet with the officer this morning.

She was supposed to bring him home last night, said she would bring him to the appointment this morning and didn't.

If he gets in anymore trouble, he will get sent to a boys ranch or jail. What happens now?

I can't even say all the crap I wish would happen to that b*tch.


- Asked by catscratch, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Executive

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Why not just call the PO and ask for some help concerning mom? It sounds like she may well have criminal issues as well and the PO would know what to do to clamp down on her. Were I the dad, I'd have a restraining order on her today and use this lack of respect for the law as a good example why she's not fit or a good influence.



- Response by singledad281, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Houston, Hospitality

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Call the probation officer. Communication is key with them. If they see that your the responsible adult you wont be at fault, she will be. They might even cut her visitation rights to supervised only. If you don't contact the officer they'll blame you cause you are responsible for them. Good Luck.

- Response by arielriv, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Seattle, Technical

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now, mind you..i am just giving my opinion on this. your stepson should be old enough to a)call someone when he knows he has committments, and b)follow thru on his committments, without having to worry others and make everyone else the reason he didn't make it to his appointment. why is it her fault that he's not responsible? and if it is, was she around when he got into trouble? he's gonna have to man up and stop waiting for his mom(s) (yes both of you) to bail him out. you seem to be pissed with mom for a variety of reasons (im sure they are valid) but the son is the one who has probation. he's the only one that's gonna go to that room and he's the only one that will get picked up if he doesn't go. if he's old enough to get himself in trouble, he's old enough to get himself out. focus on the solution, not the route to the problem.

- Response by A Creative, Female, 36-45, Managerial

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His father should take her to court and tell the judge of her irresponsibility as a parent . The judge may change her visitation rights and it might be the best thing for his son. It is up to his father to step up to the plate and remember he picked her as the mother of his child. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

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His father should take her to court and tell the judge of her irresponsibility as a parent . The judge may change her visitation rights and it might be the best thing for his son. It is up to his father to step up to the plate and remember he picked her as the mother of his child. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

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So is he home now? Call the PO and explain the situation and reschedule the appointment.

Actually I would make the kid call the PO and explain the situation. Don't enable his and his Mom's delinquent behavior. If he gets shipped off to the boys ranch -- maybe he'll remember to show up for his PO appointment next time.

My vote is Mom just lost her visitation rights on days he has appointments with his PO.

- Response by utahmom, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Managerial

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Depending on their mood they can do anything from rescheduling it to revoking the probation and making him serve a prison sentence

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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as of now, its a violation of probabtion and soon he will have a warrant out for his arrest.

- Response by boggob, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Political / Government

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Call the PO explain..... the PO will give you options.... But they will probably test him drugs and alcohol.... and if he comes back Hot.... he's gonna have a problem

- Response by boxer1, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed

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