|Married Life / 1:45 PM - Thursday May 28, 2009|
How do I get my husband to take responsibility for things he says or does when we have arguments?
When my husband & I get into arguments, we say & do stupid, petty things. BOTH OF US. But when I say or do something & then regret it, I say I'm sorry right away. I honestly feel bad & wish I hadn't. But my husband will tell me he doesn't want to talk to me & he'll ignore me. That makes me all the more angry! He'll even take it so far as to say he wants to get a divorce because he's sick & tired of our problems. But I CAN'T get him to realize that I'm not the only one in this marriage. I mean, I'm not arguing with myself! He's told me he didn't grow up saying "I'm sorry" to family or anyone. I've told him thousands of times that when you love someone & you hurt them, you're supposed to say you're sorry. He says that gets old fast. I have acknowledged that I can act immature sometimes, and I also take responsibility for my actions & what I say. But he can't, it's like he thinks he's perfect. How do I get him to take responsibility for his part & admit when he's wrong?? I feel like I'm the only one here trying in our marriage & it doesn't work that way!
- Asked by ndngirlntx, Female, 36-45, Student