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Where exactly is the clit located??
Sex & Intimacy / 2:05 AM - Friday May 22, 2009

where exactly is the clit located??

How do i know that its THE CLIT???Will my tongue be able to reach the clit if my girlfriend is a virgin???and will it be difficult to give her an oral if she is a virgin???plzzzz help

- Asked by rohit22tandon, A Guy Critical, Male, 26-28, Kolkatta, Science / Engineering

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Don't worry dude - you'll be able to reach it! While the 'clitoris' is actually on the inside, what people think of as the clit is on the outside and easy to get to. Part the two larger folds of skin and you will see a little, circular-shaped flap of skin towards the top: this is the 'hood'. Beneath this hood is a small, round 'bean' (lol - I love that word) or lump: this is the 'clit'. It's easiest to please her if she lies on her back or sits on the edge of the bed with her legs spread and you kneel between them.

Enjoy - I'm sure she will! :)

~dev x

- Response by devonette, An Alternative Girl, Female, 26-28, Administrative

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look at a picture, but ask her to show you and she can teach you to flick the bean.

- Response by simba8231, A Career Woman, Female, 26-28, Other Profession

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While the clitoris is technically located inside of the woman's body, it is NON-technically located on the outside and is easily reachable.

Just inside of the outside vaginal lips; go up to the top of that area; inside a fold of tissue, is the clitoris. It is hidden from public view but is on the outside of her vagina. No mystery at all to getting there. It is NOT inside the place that you put a penis when you have sex. It is part of the outside equipment.

Hope that helps a little.

- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Technical

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that is the area that sticks out alttle bit above the vagina and it's a very sensual area. it's a perfect place to start any time.it doesnt matter if sh's a virgin. go online and look for a medical dictionary to view that.

- Response by A Trendsetter, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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it's easy to locate. If you open the lips, the nub at the top, where the lips come together, is what you are looking for. it has nothing to do with whether or not she's a virgin, it's still there and functioning.

The keys are to change up the temperature by smoothering it with your mouth and then allowing some cold air to get to it. To change up what you are doing with it. long tongue stroke up the entire pussy and shorter strokes just on the clit itself. Also changing from licking, to LIGHTLY sucking to possibly even LIGHTLY nibbling on it. You can mix it up by using your fingers if you tongue gets tired. Just keep it wet and don't change it up too much but just enough.

If she's vocal, you'll know which motions and techniques she likes more. Every woman is different so what worked in the past may not work for her and vice versa. It all works the same though whether she's a virgin or not but nervousness may play a roll with her since she's never done it. Just work really hard to make it about her and pleasing her. Talk ahead of time and re-assure her that she has the ability to tell you when something is feeling good or doesn't and that you actually want her to tell you what works because you want to please her. when she does tell you, do it! Take your time and afterwards (after the cuddling) talk again about what worked and didn't. The more she feels she can tell you before and after, the more comfortable she will get with telling you during!

- Response by joent612, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Tampa, Administrative

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