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How many times do you actually get to fall in love?
Sex & Intimacy / 4:01 PM - Thursday May 14, 2009

How many times do you actually get to fall in love?

Have you ever really been in love with someone, and they equally loved you in the same way or even more, How many times in a lifetime do we get to experience that? I am not talking to the 18 year olds that think they are in love with their b.f now, and he is going to be the only love of their lives. I am asking people old enough to know the difference.

- Asked by Female, 46-55

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I have had the chance to love three time in my life so far. And you know what if heaven for bid loose another husband I can say that yes I probably would love yet another. I think it's just part of who I am!

- Response by seasons4, A Sportif, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking

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I don't think there is a set number. I'm one of those who have had a few failed relationships, as well as one failed marriage, and I never gave up on love. Thank godness too because I found love again and remarried last year.

For some they have only one love and this lasts a lifetime, for others they have loved many, and lost in love, but there is always hope, and love is out there you just have to make yourself available.

- Response by kdtxchic30, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Yes, I was given a second chance at love at the age of 43. We ended up getting married. We are still very much in love with each other.

- Response by A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Student

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I honestly believe it can be more than once but for me it has only been once. As a matter of fact, I still keep in touch with him and yes, I still do love him. It's kind of like loving from a distance because he's involved with someone and so am I.

- Response by kutie56, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Newark, Other Profession

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If you look at the big picture it is obvious that love has no boundaries. I love lots of people; family,friends,all kids, several furry animals and a couple of not so furry ones. Why should sexual love be any different?

- Response by justapuss, Female, 46-55, Athens, Self-Employed

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What you are saying isn't true. Although I was joking my answer is closer to reality. I'm an expert in this area. Human attraction is based on biology and so is love. If you want the details I'll go into them for you. From facial similarity, proximity, pheromones, the chemistry involved in stabilizing a bond, to the solicitation of emotion as a result of both physiology and phenomenological mapping. I know of what I speak. People can fall in love as many times as they choose to.


- Response by joybird, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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as many times as u find it. why not? u kno how u feel about people and u only kno what love is to u.

- Response by briant76, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 26-28, Military

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You can fall in love as many times as you allow your heart to be open to the idea and as many times as you find biological chemistry with men around you. God girl...if I was in Spain or Puerto Rico I'd fall in love about once every five minutes!

- Response by joybird, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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---------- joybird wrote --------
"There are unhappy people in the world not because they can't find and fall in love but instead because they put so many expectations on that which results in disallusionment. There is no such thing as "true love". That is an illusion...a faulty assumption just like the one that insisted the world was flat.
And I'm talking about reciprocated love. It's possible to experience that over and over again.
What people need to let go of is the enormous expectations they have around commitment, monogamy, financial stability, and about 50 other criteria they put together they make the willing love jump through before they are willing to surrender."

This is excellent advice. Joybird is absolutely right.



- Response by justapuss, Female, 46-55, Athens, Self-Employed

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---------- joybird wrote --------
There are unhappy people in the world not because they can't find and fall in love but instead because they put so many expectations on that which results in disallusionment. There is no such thing as "true love". That is an illusion...a faulty assumption just like the one that insisted the world was flat.
And I'm talking about reciprocated love. It's possible to experience that over and over again.
What people need to let go of is the enormous expectations they have around commitment, monogamy, financial stability, and about 50 other criteria they put together they make the willing love jump through before they are willing to surrender.


---------- Anonymous wrote --------
Blah blah blah. Thats a whole lot of words and you really aren't saying anything. The question had nothing to do with how many times you fall in love alone. I asked to fall in love and have it recipricol. Just because you fall in love with someone does not mean that person feels the same. If your theory were correct, there wouldnt be so many unhappy people in the world. There are people that are in love with people, and those people are in love with someone else. So I am not wrong. I am talking about a true love between two people that feel the same about each other. And read the responses, most people say exactly what I thought, which one two or maybe three times. No one says "Oh I've been in love 25 times" Not real. But again thanks for taking the time to respond. Have a great evening with your love, I am sure you have one. :)



- Response by joybird, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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