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How do you politely tell a guy your not interested after a first date?
Dating / 7:17 PM - Sunday May 03, 2009

How do you politely tell a guy your not interested after a first date?

You go out, have a nice conversation and you both say, "talk to you later." You're not sure if either of you were impressed. Wouldn't it be easiest if neither made contact after? What if he calls? But he would make a good friend. Do guys just want to be friends? If he doesn't just want to be friends, how do you let him off easy?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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- Response by thundermist04167, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

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Don't procrastinate. If your sure that he isn't your type or that you don't want anything from him more than friendship tell him straight off. Don't wait the 3 days to say I'm not into you. That's something that should be done right away so you won't be leading him on. You could always not contact him in hopes that he isn't that into you also.
Typically if a guy went out on a date with you, it doesn't really mean that he wants to just be friends. But if both of you have mutual feelings about that they bring it up. He might say yes, but usually those chances are slim.
As for letting him off easily- just tell him how you feel. He's not your type? It just didn't feel right? Let him know- but don't bash his personality be constructive with it. Because if he actually did feel like he liked you then that would hurt. Gl

- Response by mechiejay, A Hippie Chick, Female, 26-28, Chicago, Retail

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You can surely be friends if both of you are interested in a friendship. In fact, one would be better off if one got to know another as a friend first before becoming romantically involved. Make it clear to the other person that you are only interested in pursuing a friendship. As long as the other understands most people enjoy firendships. Who says a man and a woman can't be just friends? I personally enjoy real friendships with both men and women.

Hope this helps.

- Response by sehfairy, Female, 46-55

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