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Being rough with a guys balls: Do a lot of guys like it? My husband likes me 2 hurt his balls!
Sex & Intimacy / 12:47 PM - Friday April 17, 2009

Being rough with a guys balls: Do a lot of guys like it? My husband likes me 2 hurt his balls!

He likes me to pull hard on his balls and squeeze them as hard as I can.

It's so hard that I feel like I must be hurting him, but he really likes it and gets off. He says it doesn't hurt and to do it harder.

We've known one another for 3 years, and he only told me he wants it this month. He's usually really shy about sharing desires/fantasies, even though I ask a lot and tell him anything he wants is ok & I'll fulfill it.

Is this common? Is it a form of S&M, or does it not hurt?

Update: April 20, 2009.
The thing is, he usually avoids other kinds of pain. I scratched his back once during sex and he really freaked and wasn't into it. It makes me wonder if the nerves in his balls have been somehow damaged by this mass that he refuses to get checked.

Update: April 20, 2009.
Is it definitely hurting? I'm surprised if he's into pain in a way, as he's usually a bit of a wimp about other kinds of pain. Is it possible that it doesn't hurt him? If he's into S&M a bit, more power to him and I'll play along. What if it doesn't hurt him though, is that possible if he's healthy? I wonder if I should be worried about his health, assuming it doesn't hurt him I'm worried that it could be a sign of a health problem. He has a funny mass on one of his balls and won't go to the doctor for it; I hope his balls aren't a little numb because of a health problem.

Update: April 17, 2009.
Maybe I'm exaggerating how hard it is, but it seems like it must hurt. He asks me to pull on them and squeeze them hard. It's squeezing them as hard as I can. I wonder if it is a bit of an S&M thing on his part. Honestly, last night I was a little pissed at him and didn't really feel like getting him off at first, because he's been a huge prick lately, and I hate to say it after a little bit I almost got into it as it was getting back at him for some of the crappy things he's done. He seemed to really like it and kept asking me to do it harder. I wonder if it's something inside of him knowing that he's mistreated me and then wanting it back.

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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i'*mm typing tahthis while hunched woeover my keyyboarda in pain just IMMAAGINGING having it done :P

- Response by dawsonmckay, A Rebel, Male, 36-45, Phoenix, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Fuck yah it hurts....and no I don't like it at all.....is it a form of s&m....not sure but it could be called torture......I like my balls played with and lightly caressed....that about it.....

Maybe you should try biting his balls....he might like it....

- Response by lab01, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, St.Louis, Other Profession

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OMG just thinking about it makes me hurt.. cupping the balls is one thing but pulling and squeezing oh hell NO.. I would think it's some form of S&M

- Response by aon007, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Salt Lake City, Science / Engineering

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if you hurt my balls, i'm slapping the crap outta you. no ifs, ands or buts.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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Count me out, no way!

- Response by boggob, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Political / Government

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I love it. Yes, harder harder harder. I love when she pulls on them. Something happens and acutally....there seems to be more cum. I don't know what it is. Yeah, it's ok to be rough on them if the guy wants it. It is pleasureable and helps to really make me climax incredibly.

- Response by A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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girl - there are all sorts of strange sexual things out there and I think that's great that you're willing to try! It sounds like you found a way to enjoy his pleasure (pain?) too! I really have no answers for you, but just try to have fun with it! And, if there is something you want to try, he should be open to it too!

- Response by pjay007, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Miami, Who Cares?

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Some guys like pain and if it was to hard he tell you. Go with what works wish you good luck...

- Response by twilightzone85, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 26-28, Milwaukee, Food Service

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This chick once sucked on my balls too hard and i thought i was gonna die. with that being said, LEAVE MY FUCKING BALLS ALONE.....LOL

- Response by handsomedetroitguy, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Detroit, Political / Government

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you must not want kids,ever ha ? it hurts,no matter what your guy says,wow, as far as the fantasy stuff,good girl,i,m the same way,i,ll do anything she askes.

- Response by A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Managerial

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You know my bf is like this too..it was when we first had sex he wanted me to squeeze hard..i thought i was hurting him too. Then he said harder..after a while he stopped telling me to squeeze on them just kind of play with them. Makes me what to ask him about it. Honestly i have no idea why he wanted me to either. He likes to hurt me during sex, well not hurt me but bites and stuff. I think thats what he likes done to him...who knows talk to him about it..if he likes it then he does..no biggie. Every man has his likes and dislikes..just like women..

- Response by A Creative, Female, 22-25, Student

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Honey,it's definitely hurting n painful if it's done the way u're decribing,but 2 make more enjoyable try tickling,licking,suckin g n stroking gently n passionately,u'll see the difference ,luv ya,bye.

- Response by podian, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Singapore, Technical

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Every guy is diffent some enjoy paid but as for me if a female is playing with mine she needs to be gental as they are extreamly sensitive

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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Different strokes for different folks - are you ok with it?

- Response by myrtletyrtle, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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yep, my husband has always enjoyed me pulling & squeezing his balls, REALLY HARD!!! I never thot there was anything wrong with dt, his wish is my command and i actually love doing it. You might try taking his balls in ur mouth and sucking really hard on dm - blows my husband's brains & gives me extra power. Luv it!

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, London, Self-Employed

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Re you kidding me? Them babies are sensitive. Not into pain giving or receiving

- Response by gilpill, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Internet / New Media

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Dear Cool Mom,
I am going on 50 now and my wife used to really like seeing balls hanging down, and she would play with mine a lot. Now a days I really perfer her giving me a handjob with oral and randomly taking control by sucking my balls really hard. Makes me gaps and fells good when it pops out through her lips. As I get excited my balls pull up inside. I am having her pull them back down and hold them down, while she gets my worked up. I am also having her squeeze them as hard as she can to the point she gets tired. She keeps saying, she can't believe that that doesn't hurt. Just right before I climax, I get her to squeeze as hard as she possible can, and sometimes I grab her hand and squeeze with hers. I wish she could hurt them more then what she can. There are certain areas connecting to testes that hurt even more. Try to find that spot and give a good squeeze between you finger and thumb. Once you find it, do it hard for a couple of seconds and let go. If he gaps you know you found it. I am sure he will love it as I do. In like ways, she really like to have me pull straight out on her nipples. I had it stretched out several inches. I could not beleive that she liked it and that it would go that far out. The more she was arosed, and close to climaxing, she wanted me to pull even harder. I guess it is the same thing if you enjoy your nipples pulled close to climax.

- Response by spudsinator, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Sacramento

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- Response by spudsinator, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Sacramento

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It's an individual thing. Some guys can't handle any testicle abuse at all, some get off on the pain, and others find it more stimulating than painful. If he says it doesn't hurt, he's probably not lying to you and is one of the latter group. I am too.

I personally find that what might hurt any other time is exciting and stimulating when I am sexually excited, and not painful at all. What is stimulating leading up to orgasm may be painful if done afterward. The brain has a funny way of turning pain into pleasure in some situations.

About the mass in one of his testicles, TAKE HIM TO A UROLOGIST! If it were in both of them I wouldn't worry as much, but with just one he should have it checked.

- Response by txtraveler, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Transportation

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