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Why doesn't he want to meet my friends ?
Dating / 8:21 AM - Friday April 03, 2009

Why doesn't he want to meet my friends ?

Why is it that my boyfriend introduces me to all his closest friends but bails out on every occasion to meet mine ?

- Asked by sandrynn, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Geneva, Financial / Banking

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Any answer is pure speculation, but maybe he feels for some reason that he won't "measure up" in their eyes.

- Response by mikehug, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Cleveland

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Have you asked him? You might want to tell him that you feel it's important to you to be able to show him to your friends.

- Response by solstess, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Detroit, Artist / Musician / Writer

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It's never good to bring your boyfriend around your friends anyway, depending on how long you've been together. Simply ask him why he acts as if he doesn't want to meet your friends, and if he doesn't give you a straightforward answer, let him do it in his own time. He'll come around...eventually.

- Response by femmefatale86, A Trendsetter, Female, 26-28, Medical / Dental

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sounds likes he's a self centered prick and knows he'll be asked some very difficult questions by your friends, saying again he's a coward.

i hope this isn't the case, but all his actions point to this.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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Have you confronted him with this question?
He must not really care about your friends. Sounds like he is avoiding them for some mysterious reason.
Sit down and talk to him about this.

- Response by amandasboy, A Father Figure, Male, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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this one is simple....he's not trying to get close to u.if he were it wouldn't be a problem. my question for u is this...u have met his friends but how does he introduce u to them? does he use your frist name or something else?

- Response by phenomenal1woman, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Chicago

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Sounds tho he's somewhat insecure and afraid he might be judged by them. How have you described these friends to him? Is he shy in other areas. Has he met your family? Ask him point blank what the problem is.

- Response by englishrose4945, A Life of the Party, Female, 66 or older, Miami, Alternative Medicine

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He may not be ready to meet your friends. It depends on what part of the relationship you're at. If this is the beginning of the relationship, he don't need be introduced to your friends quite so fast. You need to have some common ground, you need to have foundation in the relationship. If it's three or four months down the road and he hasn't met your friends, it means that he not looking at this in a long-term committment kind of way. So if he's not wanting to meet your friends down the road, it means that all you are is a sex buddy for him and that's it.


- Response by sugarlump, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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