|Sex & Intimacy / 12:52 AM - Tuesday March 10, 2009|
When a girl tells you that she's not ready for a relationship do they actually mean that?
I've been single now for a while and nothing I seem to do works out. The last two girls who I have really been interested in, I had an amazing connection with them, we have a great time, everything seems to be going good and then they tell me they're not ready for a relationship. The one I can actually believe because up until December she was engaged and that relationship ended so I can believe that maybe she's not ready to put herself out there again...but the other one, I really feel like she's just messing with me and doesn't actually wanna be with me...actually one of my friends dated her about two months ago, he doesn't know me and her have been talkin so he assumes it's still alright to tell me stuff about her and from what he says, this weekend they had a little rendevous...she denies it but i've been friends with him a lot longer than i've known her and honestly i trust him more and like i said he doesn't know i had been talkin to her so he's not at fault here, i can't exactly jump down his throat for that but...really i don't wanna believe that she's just playin me but at this point i've been waitin on her to be "ready for a relationship" longer than i probably should've but I'm just havin no luck. Anybody got any advice for, well for any of that?
- Asked by georgenelsonnotbabyface, A Hip Hop Guy, Male, 22-25
No. Plain and simple, if a girl REALLY wants to be with you, she'd be willing to at least give it a try. Unless she just got out of a really bad relationship, she just doesn't see you as more than a friend but doesn't know how else to tell you without hurting your feelings. Ask her in a polite, genuine, and caring manner why she isn't ready to be in a relationship. If it sounds like bullshit, move on. She's working too much, she's too busy, etc is all bullshit. But if she gives you something genuine like I just got out of a relationship with a guy I'd been dating for 2 years.... Then she probably really likes you but is too scared it won't work out just like the last relationship she was in.
Move on brother! I spent several long months chasing this single girl. She was friendly and we had a great time talking and even had things in common but when I tried to get a date she came with that "I'm not ready" BS! I finally wised up and cut ties with her cause at the same time she was telling me this nonsense she was chatting up dudes online. I was around her when this one dude called her, she just about slid off her chair while she talked to him, if ya know what I mean. And he was on the other side of the planet and I was right there. Yet she's not ready to date. Now do you think if dude was living here she would have told him that? I don't! I know it sucks but pee on the fire and call in the dogs. Nothing good is going on with that girl. Warn your buddy about her too!