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Can a women who is married have a male best friend?
Friendship / 5:42 PM - Tuesday February 24, 2009

Can a women who is married have a male best friend?

- Asked by skippernet, A Creative, Male, 46-55

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Yes, I am married and my best friend is a male and my husband is ok with that but its only because I introduced him to my husband and when he and I hang out I always invite my husband to attend (usually he tells me no). In addition, your male friends should respect your relationship with your spouse and not do things that could cause friction. Most importantly, your husband has to be secure enough to handle it.

Good Luck

- Response by jurisdoctorate, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Detroit, Lawyer

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Yes. Her husband...

- Response by fyf04, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Chicago

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Yes, he's called her husband.

- Response by mistyjean, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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SHe married him, I'd hope she at least likes the dude!

- Response by geester, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Celebrity

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Why not????

- Response by barbb, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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the only male best friend she should have is her dad, her husband or her brother. anyone else is probably another lover.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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I believe it is possible. I have two male friend who have been my friend since I was about 19 yrs old.

I find the responses here very interesting, I guess most men here don't agree with it!

- Response by pinklillies1, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, New York, Teaching

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I think it is WRONG for a married person to "cultivate" a relationship with someone of the opposite sex that is closer than their spouse.

My wife is also my friend, and as far as women in my life who I am not related to - there is none closer to me than my wife. If there were, it would just be too great an opportunity for trouble.

- Response by cd92835, A Career Man, Male, 46-55

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Sure they can. My wife did. And then she divorced me and is with him now.

So yeah...a woman who is married CAN have a male best friend...but whether or not I think it is a good idea is another question. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think that spouses should be their OWN best friends.

- Response by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65

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It just isn't smart.
You may feel there are NO feelings on your end, and that might be the case, but you cannot control the person at the other end of the friendship.

It isn't healthy to cultivate such a friendship.

- Response by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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In an ideal scenario, a woman marries her best friend.

That said, I have extremely close friends who are male, but they are like brothers to me, not best friend/sweethearts. My man has absolutely no reason to feel 'threatened' by a brother figure.

- Response by pandorasfault, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Teaching

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Yep, only if he's gay. In my experience straight guys who are "bestfriends" with a girl usually like the girl more than a friend and have settled as being the "bestfriend" in hopes the woman will realize how great they are when their own relationship is failing and go running to them. Happened way too many time.

- Response by kthall, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Halifax, Hospitality

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Its possible, I just dont think its a good idea. Unless, she thinks its okay for her husband to be best friends with another woman. Me personally I am my man's bestfriend and thats how it should stay :)

- Response by niyahsmom1, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Administrative

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Other than her husband? Only if he is Gay! Men she thinks are her friend are just men who want to get into her pants. That's the truth of it. And if she hangs with a dude when her husband is not around, then she is setting it up and waiting for it to happen.

- Response by olson, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Managerial

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sure. it should really be her husband but if not, no big deal.

- Response by luckyinkentucky, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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playing with fire. If tings are bad at home, sex will eventually rule.

- Response by healer, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Executive

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Yes why not. If the husband or BF trusts her there is no reason why that is not possible. I have many girl friends who I used to work with and still go out to dinner with them 4 times a year.( I am a married man) My wife has no problem with it because she knows I worked with these people for almost 20 years. No way will I give up our friendship because I no longer work at the same company. I also have a best male friend who has moved to Vegas who I have gone to see many times alone. She trusts me and I give her no reason to think that I am doing anything wrong.

- Response by sparky11, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Providence, Other Profession

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I have a best friend who is male..he is a single father of 2 children.i am not married but as good partner didnt like it at first,he was convinced somthing was going on.never was and now he has got used to it!!!
i find my friend very easy to talk to about stuff and he has a different opinion to things than any of my female fact he normally backs my partner up!!!

- Response by A Creative, Female, 36-45, London

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of course! as long as there are no hidden feelings between the two.... "best friends"

- Response by sizzlingjess, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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As long as both know there boundries.

- Response by flyinghawaiian56, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Transportation

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No. It will only cause problems.

- Response by harrismcgovern, A Career Man, Male, 29-35, Miami, Managerial

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I think she can, as long as every body is honest..One of my best friends is a male. we've been friends for 27 years now. we just dont have any romantic feels for each other & we never will...i know it for a fact. any man in my life who see's us together just knows it by watching us..most of my boyfriend i've dated in the past have never had a problem. but i do think it really depends on the situation. i think men dont really have a problem with my best friend because he's disabled, and well, he can barely even move so they probably see him as less of a risk maybe

- Response by dragonflyfairie, A Hippie Chick, Female, 29-35, Teaching

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most definitely!!!

- Response by irishis2, A Creative, Female, 46-55, New York, Administrative

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Of course...

- Response by confus3d1, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Miami, Student

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Not if she's married to me!!

- Response by randolph, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 66 or older, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Yes. A woman who is married CAN have a male best friend. Usually, it's the husband, but it can be a friend from outside the marriage. A man who is married, however, cannot have a woman as a best friend because he is always thinking about least I am, even in passing, when I am talking to my female friends.

- Response by obxblues, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, New York, Artist / Musician / Writer

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yes it happens happen and its fine its just like a best friend whose a chick, just some get along better with guys

- Response by spices21, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Military

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Yes she can. But it could back far on her.

- Response by twilightzone85, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Milwaukee, Food Service

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yes it's possible. I'm single and straight. I'm have a really great friendship with my coworker who is married. We're actually more like brother and sister. And I get along great with her husband and their 3 children. Part of the reason, is that her family is back in LA and they're here in columbus, ohio. So since we have a mutal understanding of each other we've bonded like a brother and sister. I've also become to be known to their children as gringo uncle drew, but it's all cool.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Columbus

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