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How does a guy make himself more attractive?
Dating / 1:36 AM - Tuesday February 24, 2009

How does a guy make himself more attractive?

Physically or by his actions, In what specific ways can a guy make himself more attractive?

- Asked by bombadil, A Creative, Male, 26-28, Portland, Medical / Dental

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I've said this before on AO, but attractiveness is really more about confidence than anything else. Sure, there are physical features that might make you more attractive to certain people that prefer those features, but the only things that can make you more attractive universally are being confident and being intelligent. My advice is to hit your local gym a couple times a week to make yourself feel good about your body, and become knowledgeable about current issues and a couple of other fun topics (music, movies, books, or a hobby are all good ideas), and generally try to relax around women. Get a couple of good female friends too, since that will help you feel comfortable around the opposite sex.

Finally, realize that most times, women aren't looking to be particularly impressed by a guy. They're looking for someone who makes them laugh, and who they feel comfortable around to spend their time with. Don't underestimate yourself.

- Response by kelter, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 26-28, Seattle, Student

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well for me i like guys who are intellectual its a turn on. Its sounds weird but i rather have a guy play aloof instead of being all over me. I really like confidance but not conceided. and if they dress good that helps also.

- Response by carolcarr, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Tampa

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Both. You have to be charming, but don't pile it on too high, because if the girl is pretty, she's heard it all before. The prettier, the less praise you should give her about looks, the plainer, the MORE praise. If she is smart, show her your smarts. In general, just be clean, teeth, bathe daily, some cologne like Polo or Drakar. That should do it. Smile, lots of eye contact. Play just a little hard to get yourself.

- Response by gloria55, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Medical / Dental

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I think a man can be more attractive by being his true self. This is the best self you can give to yourself, to a woman, and to your friends. Be yourself and it will come across more quicker than anything else.

- Response by anotherheartbreakinthemakes, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, New Orleans, Who Cares?

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ha can stand tall.... talk with confidence..... and have a fat wallet

- Response by boxer1, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed

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Men who seem strong yet gentle always get my vote. Men who use their brains, and don't exude testosterone are attractive. Good grooming, a sense of humor, and the ability to make good eye contact and be intelligent about emotions are attractive. Genuine interest in their own lives and the ability to make interesting conversation rate high(not ONLY sports, sloganeering politics or things with wheels.)

- Response by monana, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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How he dress up,hair,nails,shoes,nic e perfume..Not necessarilly a branded one.(Gentleman,Humble yet Confident)

- Response by janemann, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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