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He won't let me spend the night after sex @ his home. Why not?
Sex & Intimacy / 10:39 PM - Tuesday February 17, 2009

He won't let me spend the night after sex @ his home. Why not?

We have been having sex together always @ his home for at least 1 year by now.

- Asked by Female, 46-55

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"He won't let me spend the night after sex @ his home. Why not?"

There is only one reason: He doesn't want you there when he wakes up in the morning.

Now WHY this is, only YOU can determine. We are not there and do not have one single detail regarding your relationship.

- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Technical

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sounds like he enjoys the benefits but does not want the relationship.

That is sad.


- Response by iowaczechartist, A Thinker, Female, 46-55

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You're just a booty call.

- Response by king313, A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Detroit, Technical

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well, that's a t-u-f-f-y...he has something to hide??..i would be just up-front and ask.

- Response by pinknblu, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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There must be someone he doesn't want to know you spent the night.--the neighbors? Another "friend"??
It sounds like it is just "sex" and not love or he would want to wake up with you.

- Response by lovelight, A Creative, Female, 66 or older, Los Angeles, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Dahhhhh - He doesn't want to take it to the next level - to committed a move for him - then what - U MOVE IN - Get it?

1 year? this is a BAD SIGN,

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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Do you ever hang out during the day? If you only get calls late at night and he kicks you out afterwards then your just a booty call. He acts nice and probably says nice things so you keep coming back.

- Response by experienced123, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Administrative

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maybe he sleeps better without you in the bed.

- Response by pokerking818, A Creative, Male, 36-45, Other Profession

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Sorry to be harsh, but it sounds like he likes the sex, but not you.

- Response by saralabelle, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, Fashion

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Why did you wait a whole year to ask this question!!!!!!!! You are being used. You are wasting your time and energy on a fellow who is a heel, as we used to say.

- Response by happygal2, Female, 56-65, Administrative

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- Response by luv2strong, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, New York, Other Profession

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Why don't you ask him directly instead of guessing? And if he fails to provide you an answer, tell him it's plaguing you. Tell him it was hard to bring yourself to ask, and therefore you think he should step up and reward you your bravery with an answer.

- Response by noelly89, A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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There could be many reasons why he doesn't want you to stay over at his house after sex...maybe the best thing to do is to talk to him about it and find's better to talk about things like this than to 'assume' things...:D

- Response by fastball, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Self-Employed

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Because he's afraid of the intimacy and is holding you at arms length. When you wise up, he'll dump you.

Try this: only have sex at your place and then kick him out. See how he likes that.

Good luck and God bless

- Response by kravjar666, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, Los Angeles, Consulting

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Then stop having sex with him at his house or stop it all together. Have you asked him why?????

- Response by barbb, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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maybe he farts in his sleep...or snores

- Response by ttlicious, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55

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