I am speaking as a woman who has been with a man who is 10 yrs younger than me. We have been together about 3 yrs. and we love each other very much. We are best friends in fact. I know several times he has exptessed his desire to have kids, with tears in his eyes. I totally understand the fact that he would want to do that. He gets along great with my two yr old grandson, and loves it when he calls him Pa Pa. He gets tears in his eyes, and says at least I can be a Pa Pa, if not a father.
It tears me up inside when he talks that way, and I tell him that he can still have a family. He just needs to find a younger woman and they can have a kid. He crys and says the only woman he wants to have kids with is me, and he knows I can't do that anymore.
But you know what? If he were to find someone, and would have feelings for her, I would know it. I wouldn't want to stand in his way of finding true happines because I love him. The thought that he might have a shot of being a Dad would totally thrill me, even though it would kill me inside to think of him being with someone else. But that is something that I would have to learn to smile and deal with. I know I would always be a part of his life as a friend, and I would become friends with his woman also. He says he would find a woman, have a baby, and then find a way to get rid of her and keep the baby. I told him how wrong that is.
The best thing to do is to be totally honest with your woman, and let her know that you have met someone closer to your age that you may be interested in. If she is anything like me, then she doesn't want to be with anyone who dosn't want to be with her. It isn't like she couldn't find someone else who would love to be with her. She may feel hurt yes, but she will get over it. Women do that you know. We can go on, and live our lives. And we do. You need to be honest, and stop hiding your true feelings, because she will be able to tell. Trust me, she will. It isn't right to do this to her, because eventually you will sleep with this younger girl, and then how will you feel?
Let her know now. Be a man, and be honest and a stand up guy. Show some true emotions, and deal with things. Let her know that you care, but that things have changed.
Best of luck in finding what you seek~Thundergrl
- Response by thundergrl
, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Other Profession