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Sex on the First Date (with a twist)
Sex & Intimacy / 6:53 PM - Sunday February 01, 2009

Sex on the First Date (with a twist)

I am curious on women's opinion on sex on the first date with a twist. There are times when I have been set up with a date or have talked to someone on line without physically meeting them. Normally, in these situations I'll talk to the women for weeks or even months before physically meeting them. I don't pressure them to meet. In fact I let them meet when they are ready. The majority of the time we end up sleeping together on that first date. The majority of the time we end up dating after that.

My question to the women is have any of you been in that situation? Do you still consider that sex on the first date even though you've been talking to the guy for some time?

My thought is that the women have grown emotionally comfortable and don't have a problem with the sex. I let them make the first move. They do the little playful touches or end of the night hug/kiss etc. If they want to go further, who am I to resist, lol. Also, curious about the guys experiences with this.

- Asked by rjack90, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Baltimore, Science / Engineering

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i think its fine. if there is no pressure from either side. you guys are comfortable emotionally with eachother after talking for awhile then why not? sex isnt as big of deal as it used to be. as long as there is a mutual want for it and protection then its perfectly ok.

i personally dont but to each his own lol

- Response by A Life of the Party, Female, 18-21

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I don't see one thing wrong with it. As long as you don't pick em up on the street then go to a room somewhere. But who am I to judge! lol...


- Response by stephscene75, A Life of the Party, Female, 36-45, Oklahoma City

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I don't care if we been talking for months.. I dont have sex on a first date with any man, not ever.. what is the hurry?? I think people hop into bed way to fast and most women think its fine but they want more.. I wait until I am in an committed relationship.. but sex on a first date.. sorry it is still sleazy to me

- Response by smartblond, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Charlotte, Self-Employed

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Well, with talking for a long period of time you get to know the person so you are more comfortable emotionally before meeting. Then if the "date" goes well why not...you're both adults and if you both want it go for it.

- Response by lasttrueromantic, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Teaching

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It's usually been my experience to start with a friendship dynamic, and use sex to initiate dating+relationship. The dating comes AFTER we have sex!

- Response by creepyolderguy, A Player, Male, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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my policy is never, ever on the first date. But when I know someone well wnen we start dating, things can move more quickly.

- Response by rosebudlea, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

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I never ever have sex like that.

u do not know the person u talk to online no matter how long u type. U know the guy when you breathe together.

Sex like that is worse than on the first date cos the fool woman gonna think she knows this guy, and it sometimes turns out she don't know him at all.

- Response by susycu, A Life of the Party, Female, 22-25, New York

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Actually this happend with my first love. We met online in a chat room and he went to the highschool that i was going to. and on the day we met we slept together and we continued at it for about fours years and one day he came up to me and said you know we can go out and do stuff like go to the movies instead of having sex all the time. wich told me that he cared about me more than i thought he had.

- Response by carolcarr, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Tampa

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